but thats my point...restricting yourself to a person who JUST meets every qualification is just screwing yourself (literally :chuckles: ). My point is that, although you may have different interests, thats what makes you a dynamic couple. I think that being with a girl that was into cars and sports would be frustrating because that would be all you talked about and eventually it would be like talking to yourself. Having different people, to me, creates different conversations and different relationship dynamics.

 

Its all

 

Again you are mistaking a few basic concepts. I'll use me as an example... I want to be with a person who doesn't drink, smoke, do drugs, or has ever had any sexual relationships. Everything else is secondary... they may be important but they are things I am willing to work with. Sure I like dark music, computers, guitars, cars but I don't expect my partner to love them but if they did it would be an added bonus.

 

So if you met a person who was basically your dream girl, met all of your classifications, except for the fact that she had slept with another guy...would you pass her by? I'm talking about she is the girl you've always wanted and dreamt of....


All I'm trying to say is that if you limit yourself so stricktly, you'll let your possible soul mate (I don't know if I even believe in that, so don't get started on that) slip right through your fingers.

 

Yep she'll find the door very quick. I have very strong values, and like I said I'd rather be single and celibate than break them.

 

thats sad.

 

Nope, its called having values. Many of my ex gfs asked me why I dumped them, I told them values are values and I live by them. I doubt I could even live with myself let alone someone else if I didn't live by those little rules I set for myself.

 

again, like I said, your closemindedness is sad.

 

Its not called being closeminded, but hey if thats what you think then its fine because you are entitled to your opinion. Some people need the constant reminder that they have someone, hence most people can't spend a week being single and would rather be with someone totally obtuse from who they are than be alone. I am different, I am not clingy and I am able to function perfectly on my own. One of my close friends is dating a girl that smokes, he hates people that smokes and I told him that he was doing it because he can't be alone and needs constant attention and that is absolutely correct.

 

yeah but 60 years of solitude? not someone to have deep intimate conversations with? not someone to share your life's adventures with? not someone to be completely open and intimate with?

Seems like an awful waste of a life if you go through it by yourself.