Yes, but I'd also rather not spend 50 years with someone wondering why the hell I gave up my values. Being single is not lonely, to some it is but I like solitude and have never had an issue with being alone. In the words of Amorphis: "I have more companions when I'm all alone."

 

I'll have to agree with roast beef on this one

 

I can't speak for everybody, but for me, I make DAMN sure I know what is going on with her. I mean, I don't just like flip her over, grease it up and go for it. Go slow, be gentle, communicate. But, I'm not knocking you if it's not your thing. My understanding is that it's kind of an aquired taste.

 

I think that, sadly, most people will end up married to whatever they will settle for.

 

yeah....marriage is more about someone you can tolerate nowadays

 

How is this a waste? It's not like you're going to live in a hole in the ground. Some of the greatest people in history were single: Beethoven, the Pope, Leonardo DaVinci, Michelangelo, Queen Elizabeth. If you can find something to live for other than someone else, then it's really not bad to be alone. Of course it's always nice to have someone to snuggle up to at night, but it's more important to be yourself and true to who you are and what you want to do. You have to learn how to be strong by yourself; nobody else can teach that to you.

 

I can respect your decision axemansean, but from the otherside I think your really missing out on a lot of life. Some people view sex as a sacred act I guess. It's not something you should do with just anyone IMO, but as long 2 people are in love with each other I see nothing wrong with it. It's natural, an instinct branded deep within us. Being intimate with your partner can take a relationship to a whole different level. It's also another compatability test I think. I'd would never marry someone without being intimate first, because if your not sexually compatable it will never last. If someone is raised to believe sex is bad up until marriage I wonder how they will ever let loose and actually enjoy it? Who knows maybe we are all missing out? :dunno:

BTW Freud was a very sexual person, and he is considered great by many.

 

I have a good friend who claims its her favorite act of debauchery by far. So I guess you're right....it must be an aquired taste. So, if it suits you, more power to ya!!! :rockon:

 

Yes, there are values that each person lives by, but it also appears as though you have an unrealistic outlook on your "perfect" woman. I would be surprised if you have ever been in love with someone.

 

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