they were too young
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From: los josengeles
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so you ALWAYS fucked her with a condom on then?
getting into a car accident is NOT the same shit as getting pregnant. just because both involve "risk" doesnt make them the same situation. some of you are pretty damn dense. getting into a car accident can also involve OTHER people's actions beyond your control. getting a girl pregnant involves ONLY the two people that are fucking at the moment.... YOU and YOUR girl. dont get me wrong, manning up to your "errors/actions" and taking responsibility of the pregnancy is good... but that should be a given. my point is the initial event should not be pitied and seem like there was no "choice."
getting into a car accident is NOT the same shit as getting pregnant. just because both involve "risk" doesnt make them the same situation. some of you are pretty damn dense. getting into a car accident can also involve OTHER people's actions beyond your control. getting a girl pregnant involves ONLY the two people that are fucking at the moment.... YOU and YOUR girl. dont get me wrong, manning up to your "errors/actions" and taking responsibility of the pregnancy is good... but that should be a given. my point is the initial event should not be pitied and seem like there was no "choice."
Having kids out of wedlock is more common than you think. Besides, what's so wrong about it? Does it make me less of a person? Life has a shitload of speed bumps and this is one of them in my case. So what? That makes me an idiot?
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Actually it is quite the same. There's a percentage of risk involved both actions. You assume you are safe with a seatbelt on, driving the speed limit ect. just like you assume you are safe while having sex when one person is using birth control. But sometimes birth control doesn't always work just like sometimes a seatbelt doesn't always save your life. The effectiveness of birth control is one of the factors that is out of my control. Could I have taken other measures to prevent it from happening? Of course. But people could also take other measures to stay alive if they get into an accident. But this is why we call them accidents. We never intend for them to happen but they do.
Having kids out of wedlock is more common than you think. Besides, what's so wrong about it? Does it make me less of a person? Life has a shitload of speed bumps and this is one of them in my case. So what? That makes me an idiot?
Having kids out of wedlock is more common than you think. Besides, what's so wrong about it? Does it make me less of a person? Life has a shitload of speed bumps and this is one of them in my case. So what? That makes me an idiot?
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Actually it is quite the same. There's a percentage of risk involved both actions. You assume you are safe with a seatbelt on, driving the speed limit ect. just like you assume you are safe while having sex when one person is using birth control. But sometimes birth control doesn't always work just like sometimes a seatbelt doesn't always save your life. The effectiveness of birth control is one of the factors that is out of my control. Could I have taken other measures to prevent it from happening? Of course. But people could also take other measures to stay alive if they get into an accident. But this is why we call them accidents. We never intend for them to happen but they do.
Having kids out of wedlock is more common than you think. Besides, what's so wrong about it? Does it make me less of a person? Life has a shitload of speed bumps and this is one of them in my case. So what?
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R.I.P. Huan Vo aka woong
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R.I.P. Huan Vo aka woong
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im not putting down people who have kids out of wedlock. as stated before, that is NOT my point. it doesnt make you, or another person, any less of a person. my point was the fact that you pointed your situation out as "not having a choice" which implies that you had no control and/or choice as to creating that kid. THAT is what im saying is not true. people who have kids when unmarried is not a "lesser of a person"... but when they put up a front and excuse as to "it was an accident and we didnt plan on having a baby. but im responsible enough to know that im not ready for marriage yet." there is no comprehensible logic in that. that is my point.
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yeah i've been married for a little over a year...and 17 isn't legal. It is in NY state, but being that my car is very recognizable in this city, I was 2 blocks from where I live and i'm in the army? Adulty is punishable in the army...was picking them up cause my buddy wanted to...but I bailed quick when I found out their age. (18 is the age of consent if you are in the military)