Originally Posted by
95SiR
your comparison makes sense......except for the fact that in car accidents, you conveniently removed the OTHER PERSON factor. in a sex example, there is not OTHER PERSON factor. its just the guy and the girl.
Right because it's not possible to get into an accident by yourself. We always have complete control of weather and road conditions, stray animals, ect.
Originally Posted by
95SiR
im not putting down people who have kids out of wedlock. as stated before, that is NOT my point. it doesnt make you, or another person, any less of a person. my point was the fact that you pointed your situation out as "not having a choice" which implies that you had no control and/or choice as to creating that kid. THAT is what im saying is not true. people who have kids when unmarried is not a "lesser of a person"... but when they put up a front and excuse as to "it was an accident and we didnt plan on having a baby. but im responsible enough to know that im not ready for marriage yet." there is no comprehensible logic in that. that is my point.
The logic is this. It's bad enough that I am about to have a kid while I am still going to school full time and I don't have a sufficient income, my fault or not. Getting married isn't going to make anything better. I'm not looking for pity. You're just not understanding the fact that this was unintentional.