Originally Posted by
Pete
Actually it is quite the same. There's a percentage of risk involved both actions. You assume you are safe with a seatbelt on, driving the speed limit ect. just like you assume you are safe while having sex when one person is using birth control. But sometimes birth control doesn't always work just like sometimes a seatbelt doesn't always save your life. The effectiveness of birth control is one of the factors that is out of my control. Could I have taken other measures to prevent it from happening? Of course. But people could also take other measures to stay alive if they get into an accident. But this is why we call them accidents. We never intend for them to happen but they do.
your comparison makes sense......except for the fact that in car accidents, you conveniently removed the OTHER PERSON factor. in a sex example, there is not OTHER PERSON factor. its just the guy and the girl.
Having kids out of wedlock is more common than you think. Besides, what's so wrong about it? Does it make me less of a person? Life has a shitload of speed bumps and this is one of them in my case. So what?
im not putting down people who have kids out of wedlock. as stated before, that is NOT my point. it doesnt make you, or another person, any less of a person. my point was the fact that you pointed your situation out as "not having a choice" which implies that you had no control and/or choice as to creating that kid. THAT is what im saying is not true. people who have kids when unmarried is not a "lesser of a person"... but when they put up a front and excuse as to "it was an accident and we didnt plan on having a baby. but im responsible enough to know that im not ready for marriage yet." there is no comprehensible logic in that. that is my point.