Does the Friend Zone Really Exist?
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This is interesting. The girl who I am talking to is doing something similar. We made tentative lunch plans for Thursday but that changed...sort of. We were talking yesterday about New Years and I told her that I only wanted to come if there were some single people going. I also told her that she needs to start setting me up with her friends.
Later that night I got a call from her asking if I could come over to her place tonight to help her take pictures of her furniture for craigslist. I told her absolutely and to let me know. I got in touch with her a few hours later asking about tonight and she said yes. It has since turned into a night of hanging out, drinking a little, listening to some new music, and she is going to bake a cake.
The way I see it, I basically told her to shit or get off the pot and she is getting off like it was on fire. What do you guys think?
Later that night I got a call from her asking if I could come over to her place tonight to help her take pictures of her furniture for craigslist. I told her absolutely and to let me know. I got in touch with her a few hours later asking about tonight and she said yes. It has since turned into a night of hanging out, drinking a little, listening to some new music, and she is going to bake a cake.
The way I see it, I basically told her to shit or get off the pot and she is getting off like it was on fire. What do you guys think?
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Well, after numerous miscues over the last week primarily attributed to alcohol and secondary to bad timing, I had a chat with her today over the phone. A great point was made here about time and space, which I am in agreement with. Told her that I thought we had been hanging out a lot recently and we should relax it a bit. She asked if I felt that way about our entire "group" of friends and I said I don't mind the group stuff, but our one on one and similar time had to end. I told her that with everything going on in my life (which are all good items) that I needed to find someone to share it with and that would require me to broaden my horizons. I said that it was something I needed to do for myself and that is wasn't anything that she or anyone else did. I informed her that I treat everyone the way I want to be treated, and I was being up front now so it doesn't reflect poorly on me in the future. I told her to keep inviting me out because I like to hang out with everyone, but I may decline more than I used to. I also told her to keep thinking of people to introduce me to and that she knows the kind of person I want.
So, in essence I am just going to take some time to meet some new people. I think it is for the best of everyone.
So, in essence I am just going to take some time to meet some new people. I think it is for the best of everyone.
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