Is it possible to trade in a new car?
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Originally Posted by wilsel
I know you didn't want comments on anything other than the car trade in, but I can't help myself.
As long as you are there to bail them out, they will never learn to be responsible with their credit. How long are you willing to cover them? They need to realize its THEIR responsibility. If they have to pawn the TV, sell the couch, whatever... so be it. Thats the only way they will learn. They need to make the sacrifice, not you. Once in a while people need help, but this is sounding like a recurring problem.
As long as you are there to bail them out, they will never learn to be responsible with their credit. How long are you willing to cover them? They need to realize its THEIR responsibility. If they have to pawn the TV, sell the couch, whatever... so be it. Thats the only way they will learn. They need to make the sacrifice, not you. Once in a while people need help, but this is sounding like a recurring problem.
Its all good, i appreciate any comments good or bad. I just needed to vent i guess.
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So let me ask...if you were to let's say get into hard times would your in-laws have your back...i can guarantee no. If they are struggling to pay there own bills and then you are struggling to pay your bills...how good are you to them if you dont have money and how good are you to yourself if all of a sudden you have to sell your house for an apt because your inlaws are living beyond there means...I dont wanna sound like a dick but it seems like ya wife is wearing the pants and has the Cojones in this marriage.
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Originally Posted by IluvJae
So let me ask...if you were to let's say get into hard times would your in-laws have your back...i can guarantee no. If they are struggling to pay there own bills and then you are struggling to pay your bills...how good are you to them if you dont have money and how good are you to yourself if all of a sudden you have to sell your house for an apt because your inlaws are living beyond there means...I dont wanna sound like a dick but it seems like ya wife is wearing the pants and has the Cojones in this marriage.
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Are they going to pay you back?
Honestly, the last thing I would do is try and return the car because I highly doubt Nissan has a 30 day grace period where you could return the car.
I would keep the Z and give them if anything 500 bucks
let them come up with the rest. Its THEIR PROBLEM. I know you want to do a good thing but by making yourself miserable and helping these debtors wont make things better. It may makes things worse because now they know they can depend on you whenever they dont feel like paying their bill.
Your wife on the other hand needs to have a better shoulder.
She has her own life to worry about and shouldnt be burdened with anyone elses financial problems. The next thing would be to sell your house to pay off her grandmothers bills.
The #1 person you should worry about making Happy is yourself.
Obviously your not pleased with this and maybe you should firmly tell your spouse that .
Honestly, the last thing I would do is try and return the car because I highly doubt Nissan has a 30 day grace period where you could return the car.
I would keep the Z and give them if anything 500 bucks
let them come up with the rest. Its THEIR PROBLEM. I know you want to do a good thing but by making yourself miserable and helping these debtors wont make things better. It may makes things worse because now they know they can depend on you whenever they dont feel like paying their bill.
Your wife on the other hand needs to have a better shoulder.
She has her own life to worry about and shouldnt be burdened with anyone elses financial problems. The next thing would be to sell your house to pay off her grandmothers bills.
The #1 person you should worry about making Happy is yourself.
Obviously your not pleased with this and maybe you should firmly tell your spouse that .
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My wife emailed me this morning saying how she apologizes for the whole fiasco. I also told her how i felt, she felt pretty guilty for it, but it doesn't change anything. i still feel stressed out, she is the only one that knows how i feel. I've already told her i have the money to pay the bill off. But somehow she insisted on asking her cousin for the money. I told her not to because last thing i need is to pay off another person or creditor.
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Originally Posted by StylinM
My wife emailed me this morning saying how she apologizes for the whole fiasco. I also told her how i felt, she felt pretty guilty for it, but it doesn't change anything. i still feel stressed out, she is the only one that knows how i feel. I've already told her i have the money to pay the bill off. But somehow she insisted on asking her cousin for the money. I told her not to because last thing i need is to pay off another person or creditor.
I would tell her to have her parents sell there M3 and get a kia. To me it seems like they are living beyond there means and since you've helped out before you'll help out time and time again. It's just going to get worse...it's 1100 now...what if it's 3300 later...or even 7800...what will you do then. To me it sounds like your wife is trying to make up for something her parents did to her in the past. I can understand helping ya parents out from time to time. But if they arent willing to do what they have to do to stay out of similar situations then you are going to find yourself very unhappy for a long time.