My wife emailed me this morning saying how she apologizes for the whole fiasco. I also told her how i felt, she felt pretty guilty for it, but it doesn't change anything. i still feel stressed out, she is the only one that knows how i feel. I've already told her i have the money to pay the bill off. But somehow she insisted on asking her cousin for the money. I told her not to because last thing i need is to pay off another person or creditor.