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Old Mar 4, 2005 | 02:00 PM
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Originally Posted by GotJDM?
she must be H 0 T !11
So that's why we let you stay...
So you can take pot-shots at the victim of a horrible crime.

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Old Mar 4, 2005 | 02:07 PM
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Originally Posted by GotJDM?
she must be H 0 T !11
have some goddamn respect you ****er.
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Old Mar 4, 2005 | 02:42 PM
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Originally Posted by Nightshade
On second thought I read it after all and you are talking about the molesting of a child.

Hey guy wake up and report this shit already. Are you taking stupid pills or something?

Nothing personal really but that is one of those gimme situations where there is only one thing you can do.
I've contacted the sister to tell all this stuff. I don't take offense to what your saying, I've pushed her to tell her family since day one so they can go through the proper steps. I know I should've done it myself and done it from day one, but people **** up sometimes.

I just felt if I woulda told someone when I was told that she would just deny it, since that is what she said and some others have done when it's brought up.
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Old Mar 4, 2005 | 02:49 PM
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Originally Posted by AKUFC
I've contacted the sister to tell all this stuff. I don't take offense to what your saying, I've pushed her to tell her family since day one so they can go through the proper steps. I know I should've done it myself and done it from day one, but people **** up sometimes.

I just felt if I woulda told someone when I was told that she would just deny it, since that is what she said and some others have done when it's brought up.
I know what you are saying and its a tough position to be ut in but I would have thought that you would have seen that it was a case of child molestation.

Regardless of the coaches reasoning for doing what he did he should have had the foresight to know what he was doing was wrong. He was put in a position of trust with the lives of children and the moulding of their lives, careers etc.

He broke that trust when he made a move on this 15 year old girl. Regardless if the family gets angry at you for bringing this to their attention, it would at least get them asking the questions that would make this case come to light.

If I were you I would follow up with them on what is being done about the situation, and of nothing is being done then I would bring it up to the school board by filing a complaint as well as contacting your local police departments youth crimes division to make sure. If it didn't happen then all will be cleared, if it did happen then the chance of him doing this to another child (possibly younger in age) will be prevented.

I know you are a smart guy, but your inaction in this matter may prove dangerous to either her or another child in the future.
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Old Mar 4, 2005 | 02:53 PM
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You need to tell her family bro'. It's a young girl, she'll learn to trust again.
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Old Mar 4, 2005 | 03:01 PM
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Cliff notes?

I didn't understand that 1st paragraph at all..............

2nd one.........soccer coach is making out with her?

I'd tell her parents or the police................
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Old Mar 4, 2005 | 04:49 PM
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Originally Posted by TheOtherDave™
:a: Hold it, now. I think you'd agree that the blame falls squarely on the coach... Given what I've heard in this thread, the coach will likely be charged with Sexual Molestation of a Minor. What the victim did or said is irrelevant in the eyes of the law. The bastard deserves serious prison time for this.
it's described as making out tho, it sounds to me like she didnt mind it at all until she started thinking of what was actually going on, at which point she ran....

i'm not saying he's not to be blamed for certain things, but theres being jumped at, and allowing then running...

i know that i'm still young and i dont know alot, but i do know some girls who fit this discription and let me tell you it's not the other persons fault completely when certain stuff goes down.... tho this still disgusts me
i dont want to be negative again but...
...maybe the family is just sick of her manipulation...

but on the positive side, the guy seems shady and should be fired and possibly put in jail, and the girls doesnt have to be what i said, just saying in my mind thats what i'm thinking for some reason
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Old Mar 4, 2005 | 04:52 PM
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Originally Posted by Nightshade
He broke that trust when he made a move on this 15 year old girl
how do you know he made a move? what if she made the move? these 2 things happened to the same girl, it creates a pattern of somthing, i'm not sure what it is but i have a feeling either she is beutiful, flirty, or agressive....

she might want to go after figures with power... sisters boyfriend, coach.... something isnt right with both of these things happeneing, i still feel bad about sayin this, but i just have a lingering feeling that it could be her just lying about it or somthing to justify what had happened
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Old Mar 4, 2005 | 05:31 PM
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Originally Posted by DRfrank
how do you know he made a move? what if she made the move? these 2 things happened to the same girl, it creates a pattern of somthing, i'm not sure what it is but i have a feeling either she is beutiful, flirty, or agressive....

she might want to go after figures with power... sisters boyfriend, coach.... something isnt right with both of these things happeneing, i still feel bad about sayin this, but i just have a lingering feeling that it could be her just lying about it or somthing to justify what had happened
It makes no difference.

He is the adult in this matter and is held responsible because without a doubt he knows better. This is how the courts will see it regardless of the excuse 9 times out of 10.

He made a move in deciding to "make out" with her. He could have instead simply excused himself from the situation. To add to that he was the one who initiated contact by "tickling" her, which is construed as a move to gain contact whether sensual or not.
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Old Mar 4, 2005 | 05:40 PM
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Originally Posted by Nightshade
It makes no difference.

He is the adult in this matter and is held responsible because without a doubt he knows better. This is how the courts will see it regardless of the excuse 9 times out of 10.

He made a move in deciding to "make out" with her. He could have instead simply excused himself from the situation. To add to that he was the one who initiated contact by "tickling" her, which is construed as a move to gain contact whether sensual or not.
or maybe she said he did something to save face with the only person she feels she can trust... what i'm saying is we really dont know what happened and that this girl might not be a victim so much as a menace

bottom line i'm trying to enforce is that we know near diddly
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