FWB's dont count..

 

my life experience thus far and others agree with what i said. show me someone who cheated once. i'll show you some one who will cheat again if not already.

 

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I agree 100% as I have seen it firsthand several times.

 

Call me a mysogynist, but the issue is I just don't trust women in general to make rational decisions about emotional issues. Of course, I have done some ****ed up things myself (I once slept with a woman who I knew was cheating on her boyfriend, for example, so I'm not a "pure soul" in this respect), but I've never cheated on a girl that I was committed to, and I don't plan to. Unfortunately, pretty much every girl I've dated after highschool had cheated on a previous ex, and I know one girlfriend of mine had cheated on me (Fugly bitch... the only thing she had going for her were her tits, and those had begun to sag significantly before we had broken up at her ripe old age of 20). Dunno... I like to think people can redeem themselves, but I just have a hard time trusting women...

 

The best advice I've given is just to go out with close friends. Friends who you trust and can confide in. Some people take a day to heal, some take longer. There is no "set" period it takes to get over a relationship.

 

Keep yourself preoccupied...my mind only got to me when I didn't have something to do. Pick up a new hobby, hang out with your friends as much as possible, get more active, go to the gym, etc. My last relationship was 2 years, took about 5 months to be completely over it.

 

I can see where you are coming from but I still have to disagree.

Usually when someone cheats it is because there is something missing from the relationship. There is something else they consciously or subconsciously want that they aren't getting and thus they seek it elsewhere. What they want may even be unattainable, or their expectations may just be unrealistic. This is typically the case with chronic cheaters.

Getting completely wasted and/or sleeping with someone else are resorts I have fallen onto in the past, but they are not really healthy solutions to getting over someone. EriksShadow's recomendations were pretty good

The best thing to do is first accept that you are hurt and allow yourself to grieve, but don't dwell on it and mope and weep about for weeks over your ex. Then just work on what you need to do for yourself to make your life better and increase your own happiness. Eventually the scars will heal and you will meet someone else when the time is right. Don't rush things. There is no set formula for how long it take to get over someone. Dwelling on it and wallowing in despair and self-pity will only make it take longer. Moving on with your life will make it go much quicker. Sex with v8guy will instantly make you forget all about other guys. (J/K )

 

that's fine, i have no problem with that, i gave my opinion.

 

You'd probably be the first to have a lesbian enjoy a penis. Go you!

 

True you cheated, your fault, non the less though, there does come a point to forgive...maybe not forget, but he needs to get over it. ya know...remind your self it is his loss for giving up up and not forgiving you completely, and don't ponder the things you can not change...it happened, live and learn, and the next relationship is to be better...I tried the whole friends after dating thing, it worked with most, but there was a select few who it just wouldnt work with, cause it was unbearable, even if I was the one that left them...but I couldn't change it...and I had to just suck it up

point...his loss, dont think about the things you can not change...one thing lies ahead, the future, not the past