ok advise here on a chick
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Originally posted by Derek
I agree, just make sure she doesn't spill her guts about her bf. Otherwise, you'll end up as her shoulder to cry on.
I agree, just make sure she doesn't spill her guts about her bf. Otherwise, you'll end up as her shoulder to cry on.
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Originally posted by atlaccordguy
also don't be shy about badmouthing him to her
also don't be shy about badmouthing him to her
you don't want to be the rebound. however, if she ends up spreading her legs for you because you listened, it probably means you're the rebound anyway. so that can get a little sticky, no pun intended.
just let it all simmer down. offer advice ONLY if she asks. that's about all you can do right now. i'm sure all she wants right now is someone to confide in. it should be pretty obvious to you on whether she's interested or not anyway.
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Originally posted by EliteHonda
I think you should keep your plans to go ice skating unless she specifically says she doesnt want to go; i think it'll help to ease her mind off her heartache, and it'll give you guys some time to get to know each other better without looking like youre trying to move in.
As someone who is in a similar situation, i know this is gonna sound maybe kinda like a stupid idea, but honesty really works wonders with a girl; wait a while til things calm down with her ex and tell her how you feel about her but say that you dont want to seem like youre taking advantage of her bad situation.
I think you should keep your plans to go ice skating unless she specifically says she doesnt want to go; i think it'll help to ease her mind off her heartache, and it'll give you guys some time to get to know each other better without looking like youre trying to move in.
As someone who is in a similar situation, i know this is gonna sound maybe kinda like a stupid idea, but honesty really works wonders with a girl; wait a while til things calm down with her ex and tell her how you feel about her but say that you dont want to seem like youre taking advantage of her bad situation.
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You have to listen enough so that she knows you care about her situation, and at the same time not give a shit sometimes. If you hang on her every word, it's straight to the friend zone for you. Friends rarely get the punani. I know you guys are lazy, as everyone that replied after the link I posted just reiterated what it said. So here's a paste:
NICE GUYS FINISH LAST
By: Garrett Hols
It’s amazing that assholes can get girls. Actually, now that I think of it, it’s not that amazing. They are assholes at heart, but to meet girls they lavish their undying love. IT’S A CHARADE. They act nice, friendly, and they listen… until they get into what they’re after. Their prey thinks they are in love with them, however when they realize what assholes their predators really are, they pretend like the asshole is really nice inside. The girl tries to change the asshole into a nice guy, but assholes will always be assholes. She gets upset and goes to the nice guy to complain about the asshole. But she claims to love the asshole… now this is where the theory begins. She doesn’t want to look like she is easy so she wont dump the asshole right away, instead she will stay with the asshole. Girls are idiots. They don’t realize that the nice guy has been there all along. He never had to pretend to be a good guy to get girls because he is naturally like that. However, girls don’t see it for some reason or another. They look at the nice guy as a friend, a trusted companion to whom they can tell their sad story to about their asshole boyfriend. But the nice guy isn’t THAT naïve. He was trying to score with the girl he listens to all along. The problem is that since he is a nice guy he keeps listening. Since girls get attached to things that pay attention to them, they think of the nice guy as a friend. A FRIEND. They don’t say, “Oh he’s hot” or “I want to have his children” about the nice guy, they just want the emotional support. When they get the emotional support from the nice guy, they don’t need it from the asshole. The nice guy gets the shit end of the stick while the asshole gets all the action. I am starting to wonder if being a nice guy is really the route to take to get action… I have been down this path for all of my post-pubescent life and it has gotten me NOWHERE… at least not in the women department. Perhaps another reason why girls fall for the asshole is because assholes ignore the girl they are with. The women wonder, “Why isn’t he paying attention to me?” so they explore why. They poke and prod and get closer to the asshole. They start to get easier with each attempt to get closer. The asshole finally says, “I’ve let this beauty dangle long enough, time to boat this bass”. It is then he puts on his charade and the girl feels like she has won him… even thought all she has won is an asshole. Once you have gone down the path as a nice guy or a “listener” you can’t turn back. The girl will always go after the assholes because there are always nice guys there to listen. Once you realize that you are a “listener” you cant do anything about it… just pack up and close shop. There is no way you will get into her pants… ever. There is and never will be a situation where the nice guy will get the girl he has a crush on. It just doesn’t work like that. The girl wont “come to her senses” and realize what an asshole her boyfriend is like in the movies… instead she will just go after another asshole, and unless you stop being a nice guy, she will never go after you. Women complain that there are no nice guys in the world. Right. They are obviously not looking hard enough because there are nice guys EVERYWHERE!!!! Girls aren’t looking for nice guys… they say they are but they’re not. They are looking for the perfect asshole, but there is NO SUCH THING as the perfect asshole. All in all, the nice guy gets the shaft. To all the girls out there with boyfriends that don’t treat you with respect, that don’t listen to you, and that don’t care about you I say this; look next to you. The guy that has been standing next to you the whole time is the guy you have been looking for. He is what you want your asshole to be like. He knows more about you than you know about yourself… because he has listened to it all.
NICE GUYS FINISH LAST
By: Garrett Hols
It’s amazing that assholes can get girls. Actually, now that I think of it, it’s not that amazing. They are assholes at heart, but to meet girls they lavish their undying love. IT’S A CHARADE. They act nice, friendly, and they listen… until they get into what they’re after. Their prey thinks they are in love with them, however when they realize what assholes their predators really are, they pretend like the asshole is really nice inside. The girl tries to change the asshole into a nice guy, but assholes will always be assholes. She gets upset and goes to the nice guy to complain about the asshole. But she claims to love the asshole… now this is where the theory begins. She doesn’t want to look like she is easy so she wont dump the asshole right away, instead she will stay with the asshole. Girls are idiots. They don’t realize that the nice guy has been there all along. He never had to pretend to be a good guy to get girls because he is naturally like that. However, girls don’t see it for some reason or another. They look at the nice guy as a friend, a trusted companion to whom they can tell their sad story to about their asshole boyfriend. But the nice guy isn’t THAT naïve. He was trying to score with the girl he listens to all along. The problem is that since he is a nice guy he keeps listening. Since girls get attached to things that pay attention to them, they think of the nice guy as a friend. A FRIEND. They don’t say, “Oh he’s hot” or “I want to have his children” about the nice guy, they just want the emotional support. When they get the emotional support from the nice guy, they don’t need it from the asshole. The nice guy gets the shit end of the stick while the asshole gets all the action. I am starting to wonder if being a nice guy is really the route to take to get action… I have been down this path for all of my post-pubescent life and it has gotten me NOWHERE… at least not in the women department. Perhaps another reason why girls fall for the asshole is because assholes ignore the girl they are with. The women wonder, “Why isn’t he paying attention to me?” so they explore why. They poke and prod and get closer to the asshole. They start to get easier with each attempt to get closer. The asshole finally says, “I’ve let this beauty dangle long enough, time to boat this bass”. It is then he puts on his charade and the girl feels like she has won him… even thought all she has won is an asshole. Once you have gone down the path as a nice guy or a “listener” you can’t turn back. The girl will always go after the assholes because there are always nice guys there to listen. Once you realize that you are a “listener” you cant do anything about it… just pack up and close shop. There is no way you will get into her pants… ever. There is and never will be a situation where the nice guy will get the girl he has a crush on. It just doesn’t work like that. The girl wont “come to her senses” and realize what an asshole her boyfriend is like in the movies… instead she will just go after another asshole, and unless you stop being a nice guy, she will never go after you. Women complain that there are no nice guys in the world. Right. They are obviously not looking hard enough because there are nice guys EVERYWHERE!!!! Girls aren’t looking for nice guys… they say they are but they’re not. They are looking for the perfect asshole, but there is NO SUCH THING as the perfect asshole. All in all, the nice guy gets the shaft. To all the girls out there with boyfriends that don’t treat you with respect, that don’t listen to you, and that don’t care about you I say this; look next to you. The guy that has been standing next to you the whole time is the guy you have been looking for. He is what you want your asshole to be like. He knows more about you than you know about yourself… because he has listened to it all.
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Originally posted by umop-apisdn
You have to listen enough so that she knows you care about her situation, and at the same time not give a shit sometimes. If you hang on her every word, it's straight to the friend zone for you. Friends rarely get the punani. I know you guys are lazy, as everyone that replied after the link I posted just reiterated what it said. So here's a paste:
NICE GUYS FINISH LAST
By: Garrett Hols
It’s amazing that assholes can get girls. Actually, now that I think of it, it’s not that amazing. They are assholes at heart, but to meet girls they lavish their undying love. IT’S A CHARADE. They act nice, friendly, and they listen… until they get into what they’re after. Their prey thinks they are in love with them, however when they realize what assholes their predators really are, they pretend like the asshole is really nice inside. The girl tries to change the asshole into a nice guy, but assholes will always be assholes. She gets upset and goes to the nice guy to complain about the asshole. But she claims to love the asshole… now this is where the theory begins. She doesn’t want to look like she is easy so she wont dump the asshole right away, instead she will stay with the asshole. Girls are idiots. They don’t realize that the nice guy has been there all along. He never had to pretend to be a good guy to get girls because he is naturally like that. However, girls don’t see it for some reason or another. They look at the nice guy as a friend, a trusted companion to whom they can tell their sad story to about their asshole boyfriend. But the nice guy isn’t THAT naïve. He was trying to score with the girl he listens to all along. The problem is that since he is a nice guy he keeps listening. Since girls get attached to things that pay attention to them, they think of the nice guy as a friend. A FRIEND. They don’t say, “Oh he’s hot” or “I want to have his children” about the nice guy, they just want the emotional support. When they get the emotional support from the nice guy, they don’t need it from the asshole. The nice guy gets the shit end of the stick while the asshole gets all the action. I am starting to wonder if being a nice guy is really the route to take to get action… I have been down this path for all of my post-pubescent life and it has gotten me NOWHERE… at least not in the women department. Perhaps another reason why girls fall for the asshole is because assholes ignore the girl they are with. The women wonder, “Why isn’t he paying attention to me?” so they explore why. They poke and prod and get closer to the asshole. They start to get easier with each attempt to get closer. The asshole finally says, “I’ve let this beauty dangle long enough, time to boat this bass”. It is then he puts on his charade and the girl feels like she has won him… even thought all she has won is an asshole. Once you have gone down the path as a nice guy or a “listener” you can’t turn back. The girl will always go after the assholes because there are always nice guys there to listen. Once you realize that you are a “listener” you cant do anything about it… just pack up and close shop. There is no way you will get into her pants… ever. There is and never will be a situation where the nice guy will get the girl he has a crush on. It just doesn’t work like that. The girl wont “come to her senses” and realize what an asshole her boyfriend is like in the movies… instead she will just go after another asshole, and unless you stop being a nice guy, she will never go after you. Women complain that there are no nice guys in the world. Right. They are obviously not looking hard enough because there are nice guys EVERYWHERE!!!! Girls aren’t looking for nice guys… they say they are but they’re not. They are looking for the perfect asshole, but there is NO SUCH THING as the perfect asshole. All in all, the nice guy gets the shaft. To all the girls out there with boyfriends that don’t treat you with respect, that don’t listen to you, and that don’t care about you I say this; look next to you. The guy that has been standing next to you the whole time is the guy you have been looking for. He is what you want your asshole to be like. He knows more about you than you know about yourself… because he has listened to it all.
You have to listen enough so that she knows you care about her situation, and at the same time not give a shit sometimes. If you hang on her every word, it's straight to the friend zone for you. Friends rarely get the punani. I know you guys are lazy, as everyone that replied after the link I posted just reiterated what it said. So here's a paste:
NICE GUYS FINISH LAST
By: Garrett Hols
It’s amazing that assholes can get girls. Actually, now that I think of it, it’s not that amazing. They are assholes at heart, but to meet girls they lavish their undying love. IT’S A CHARADE. They act nice, friendly, and they listen… until they get into what they’re after. Their prey thinks they are in love with them, however when they realize what assholes their predators really are, they pretend like the asshole is really nice inside. The girl tries to change the asshole into a nice guy, but assholes will always be assholes. She gets upset and goes to the nice guy to complain about the asshole. But she claims to love the asshole… now this is where the theory begins. She doesn’t want to look like she is easy so she wont dump the asshole right away, instead she will stay with the asshole. Girls are idiots. They don’t realize that the nice guy has been there all along. He never had to pretend to be a good guy to get girls because he is naturally like that. However, girls don’t see it for some reason or another. They look at the nice guy as a friend, a trusted companion to whom they can tell their sad story to about their asshole boyfriend. But the nice guy isn’t THAT naïve. He was trying to score with the girl he listens to all along. The problem is that since he is a nice guy he keeps listening. Since girls get attached to things that pay attention to them, they think of the nice guy as a friend. A FRIEND. They don’t say, “Oh he’s hot” or “I want to have his children” about the nice guy, they just want the emotional support. When they get the emotional support from the nice guy, they don’t need it from the asshole. The nice guy gets the shit end of the stick while the asshole gets all the action. I am starting to wonder if being a nice guy is really the route to take to get action… I have been down this path for all of my post-pubescent life and it has gotten me NOWHERE… at least not in the women department. Perhaps another reason why girls fall for the asshole is because assholes ignore the girl they are with. The women wonder, “Why isn’t he paying attention to me?” so they explore why. They poke and prod and get closer to the asshole. They start to get easier with each attempt to get closer. The asshole finally says, “I’ve let this beauty dangle long enough, time to boat this bass”. It is then he puts on his charade and the girl feels like she has won him… even thought all she has won is an asshole. Once you have gone down the path as a nice guy or a “listener” you can’t turn back. The girl will always go after the assholes because there are always nice guys there to listen. Once you realize that you are a “listener” you cant do anything about it… just pack up and close shop. There is no way you will get into her pants… ever. There is and never will be a situation where the nice guy will get the girl he has a crush on. It just doesn’t work like that. The girl wont “come to her senses” and realize what an asshole her boyfriend is like in the movies… instead she will just go after another asshole, and unless you stop being a nice guy, she will never go after you. Women complain that there are no nice guys in the world. Right. They are obviously not looking hard enough because there are nice guys EVERYWHERE!!!! Girls aren’t looking for nice guys… they say they are but they’re not. They are looking for the perfect asshole, but there is NO SUCH THING as the perfect asshole. All in all, the nice guy gets the shaft. To all the girls out there with boyfriends that don’t treat you with respect, that don’t listen to you, and that don’t care about you I say this; look next to you. The guy that has been standing next to you the whole time is the guy you have been looking for. He is what you want your asshole to be like. He knows more about you than you know about yourself… because he has listened to it all.
This is true as hell. I hate being the listener- and when I try to be the asshole it always backfires. The only thing that I can say is nessicarily true is the you'll never get into her pants theory. I have been the listener a couple of times and in most cases got the bootay after a while.
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Wait. No question about it.....wait. I am the girl in that situation right now. "The other guy" told me exactly how he felt, and that he was standing by as my friend....at the time I actually thought he was crazy....but the longer he remains my 'friend' the more Im starting to see how amazing he is. If he would have went in for the kill right away, I would have probably done something everyone would regret.
The best solution, IMHO, is to leave her alone and come see me. Im super neat too. Just FYI. *****
The best solution, IMHO, is to leave her alone and come see me. Im super neat too. Just FYI. *****
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Originally posted by etzok
Wait. No question about it.....wait. I am the girl in that situation right now. "The other guy" told me exactly how he felt, and that he was standing by as my friend....at the time I actually thought he was crazy....but the longer he remains my 'friend' the more Im starting to see how amazing he is. If he would have went in for the kill right away, I would have probably done something everyone would regret.
The best solution, IMHO, is to leave her alone and come see me. Im super neat too. Just FYI. *****
Wait. No question about it.....wait. I am the girl in that situation right now. "The other guy" told me exactly how he felt, and that he was standing by as my friend....at the time I actually thought he was crazy....but the longer he remains my 'friend' the more Im starting to see how amazing he is. If he would have went in for the kill right away, I would have probably done something everyone would regret.
The best solution, IMHO, is to leave her alone and come see me. Im super neat too. Just FYI. *****
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Originally posted by etzok
Wait. No question about it.....wait. I am the girl in that situation right now. "The other guy" told me exactly how he felt, and that he was standing by as my friend....at the time I actually thought he was crazy....but the longer he remains my 'friend' the more Im starting to see how amazing he is. If he would have went in for the kill right away, I would have probably done something everyone would regret.
The best solution, IMHO, is to leave her alone and come see me. Im super neat too. Just FYI. *****
Wait. No question about it.....wait. I am the girl in that situation right now. "The other guy" told me exactly how he felt, and that he was standing by as my friend....at the time I actually thought he was crazy....but the longer he remains my 'friend' the more Im starting to see how amazing he is. If he would have went in for the kill right away, I would have probably done something everyone would regret.
The best solution, IMHO, is to leave her alone and come see me. Im super neat too. Just FYI. *****
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You being a girl and a noob someone's gonna ask for your picture eventually. So I'll just do it... can we see your picture.h:
You being a girl and a noob someone's gonna ask for your picture eventually. So I'll just do it... can we see your picture.
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