ok advise here on a chick
Sucka
Joined: Oct 2002
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From: Fridley, MN
Janna made a good point at the end of her post...to be aware of the little hints she may be dropping. I was in a similar situation...
Cliff notes:
I was friends w/ best friend's girl
They broke up
I had a thing for her
I kept my mouth shut
I kept hanging out with her, trying to be there if she needed me, etc.
It finally came out that I had feelings for her...except I hadn't told her myself (this is where the point I'm making comes back up)
She said, more or less, that if I would have just told her...then :naughty:
<awkward silence>
Drift apart, then back together...
Get drunk...have sex a couple times.
She goes nuts, tries to kill herself (there is a reasonable amount of time btw. the sex and the suicide attempt, it wasn't directly my fault)
Basically end of story.
ANYWAY, my point:
If I would have just been straight with her AND paid attention to the fact that she really was spending a lot of quality time with me, and that we clicked pretty well, etc., etc... I could have gone about the whole thing the right way, instead of all the craziness in the end. Instead, I pussyfooted around and played games.
Now, she's a cokehead, or something. Haven't talked to her in a couple years, and I currently have a normal and wonderful girlfriend.
My vote: just be honest, or at least as honest as you can be without scaring her off. Don't make yourself out to be more or less of an asshole than you really are, and be straight with her.
Cliff notes:
I was friends w/ best friend's girl
They broke up
I had a thing for her
I kept my mouth shut
I kept hanging out with her, trying to be there if she needed me, etc.
It finally came out that I had feelings for her...except I hadn't told her myself (this is where the point I'm making comes back up)
She said, more or less, that if I would have just told her...then :naughty:
<awkward silence>
Drift apart, then back together...
Get drunk...have sex a couple times.
She goes nuts, tries to kill herself (there is a reasonable amount of time btw. the sex and the suicide attempt, it wasn't directly my fault)
Basically end of story.
ANYWAY, my point:
If I would have just been straight with her AND paid attention to the fact that she really was spending a lot of quality time with me, and that we clicked pretty well, etc., etc... I could have gone about the whole thing the right way, instead of all the craziness in the end. Instead, I pussyfooted around and played games.
Now, she's a cokehead, or something. Haven't talked to her in a couple years, and I currently have a normal and wonderful girlfriend.
My vote: just be honest, or at least as honest as you can be without scaring her off. Don't make yourself out to be more or less of an asshole than you really are, and be straight with her.