Hell no, if my wife cheated on me I would never divorce her. Her cheating on me would be the only ammo I needed. For example:

Me: "I'm going out."
Wife: "Where are you going?"
M: "Oh, I don't know, a few bars with the guys"
W: "When are you coming back?"
M: "I don't know."
W: "What do you mean you don't know??"
M: "What? Do you think I'm going to cheat on you SLUT!"

But seriously, if my wife ever cheated on me, I'm not sure what I would do. If I walked in on the act, it would probably be messy. If she told me, who knows? Hopefully I never will have to go through that.

 

its all about "hidden agenda"... one that he/she had in the first place that lead to an adulterous task... if a worthy enough trust is there that he/she will never do it again, it would have been there from the beginning, and is now at an unforgivable level of disrespect and humiliation.... imo

 

^^^

sounds like a healthy relationship :goodjob:

 

who said i didnt talk to him about it? youre assuming now. b/c i DID talk to him...dont assume that i wasnt getting what i needed out of the relationship so instead of talking to him about, i just ran off and found it somewhere else...b/c thats so far from the truth its pathetic! judge me all u want, i was just trying to throw in some of the other side of this subject...but everyone's always cheating is so wrong blah blah blah that they dont even think about the other person's feelings and mind....

 

***Before I begin please understand this is far from a personal attack... I'm just using this comment as a segue into pointing out a personal pet peeve***

:bs:

Simple psychology states that when you enter a relationship with somebody, you've found someone who compliments and reinforces your personality, and want to strengthen who you are by associating intimately with this person.

Of course, nothing's perfect, absolute perfection is widely regarded as impossible on this mortal plane, and occasionally you will meet people with strengths and skills that your current mate does not address. The strongest relationships are able return to each other and communicate freely about these newfound attractions to other people, and how to see these in your partner instead of other people. Weaker relationships are unable to communicate on this level, but the cheating fails to take place, because the individual sublimes these urges and internalizes. In the weakest relationships, people not only are unable to communicate, but the bond is not strong enough to contain your actions and you seek this other person out. Cheating isn't an accident... you don't just go walking down the street, trip, and end up cheating... Cheating is a calculated estimation of costs and benefits... People that cheat and feel good win, and people that cheat and end up feeling bad lose...

It's like when a kid breaks a toy intentionally, and when asked why they did it, the reply's "I don't know"... The way that a human brain works, unless you have a bizarre disorder, you need to think about doing something before it can happen. The kid broke the toy to see what would happen, and when they came out on the losing side of things, says it doesn't know why it did it, because they don't want to admit to themselves that they did something they knew was stupid...

And of course, if the kid breaks the toy, and finds an even better toy inside, then either the kid will enjoy the new toy, break it again for another toy, or feel remorseful for the toy that was lost.


Simple human psychology

***End rant

 

I stated before it wasn't a personal attack but since you took it that way then so be it.

You say you were getting what you needed out of your relationship but that is 100% BS and you are fooling yourself and trying to fool us in saying that.

If you were getting everything you needed out of the relationship then you wouldn't have even let the idea of cheating nter your mind...at least not to the point of actually doing it.

Nuff said at this point.

 

this is hard because adultery is a bad habit.

i don't think people will ever stop cheating once they start because they feel like there is something missing in their lives, as if they always deserve better. this is a personal problem, where i feel they cheat because they are not happy with themselves and rely on others to make them happy. cheating is a weak method of running away from your problems.

under the condition that you have the choice of leaving without reprocussions, cheating is the BITCH ass way of moving on. i don't care about excuses because no excuse will justify a weak will and coward.

i would not want that girl in my life if she cheated.

there's always someone else out there that is better, its a matter of being so happy with the one you have now that no one else matters. :yay:

kimbo and i both acknowledge there are smarter, funnier, richer, buffer, prettier people out there, but they don't matter to us because we are the smartest, funniest, prettiest, buffest, but not richest to each other. :love: :kiss: :hugglez:

sad to say :wtc: but many will not stop twice to think about adultery unless they are a victim of it, then they will appreciate someone trustworthy.

 

well put.


now treat my grand daughter right or I'll beat joo down :squint:

 

everything youre saying is wrong and backwards! i NEVER said i was getting what i needed out of the relationship! IF I WAS, i wouldnt have cheated! SIMPLE! u need to re-read what i said before youre going to attack me and think that youre right b/c u have it all twisted!

 

If my non existent wife decided to run off and have a fling with another woman, well I'd just tell her to bring her friend along so we could all kiss and make up. Now if she did that with another man, well I'd just give her the divorce papers and run off with her sister if she had one. h: