So you would say see ya after one time? I understand where you're coming from though Skyler. I think now since I am married that I have a different outlook on this. I know that if Jamie were to cheat it would be hard for me to understand why but I would atleast try. Feel meh?

 

itll only create more problems...

 

sometimes they work, sometimes they dont. i dont know a lot about arranged marriages and its culture, but they usually take place in families in which there are very high family values, not something very popular in america.h:

if you grew up around arranged marriages, you probably would see it as another phase or step in your life. and its not so much for the contract of unionship, or for the love of the couple, but more of the merger of the two families.

 

i feel joo and it is different cause you are married and in love and i'm not.. ( :sad: ) :chuckles: ... but, in a way, its a woman getting hit just once, thats all it should take for the "adult" to say, i'm out of here.. but most the time the woman/man is controlled by their emotions, blinded by their emotions.. and i'm not one to let that happen... its all about self-respect, and respect from them... when i get married its gonna be cause i love them and want to be with them.. not because i need them in anyways.. and i'll make that clear and expect the same from them.. so if anything does happen.. its over.. and it will be easier that way... see what im saying??

 

Think of it this way:

1. You'd have to get politicians to make the laws
2. They are the biggest cheaters on the planet

There's no way they'd make what they do illegal
:db:

 

:rofl:


I didn't think of it that way :chuckles:

 

i think when people are in love, they grow a dependency for one another. so in turn, you will "need" them.

something i remember my prof saying, as much as some would hate to admit it, we only marry and love if we have something to gain.

 

hmm... depends on the person.. and their "maturity" when they do get married..

at my last job, i worked with 40yr+ old peeps that all had been through at least 1 marraige... and i gained alot of wisdom from them.. and when it comes down to it... you should never "need" anything from the person you are marrying... it should be because of love and want... if its because of need, then I consider that a character weakness..

 

Man since when did you become such a selfish person, with all the wants and ish? That is out of your character. I agree with Will when he mentioned after a time there is a sense of need between the individuals. After you help each other get through tough things in life you do gain a sense of need for them. Just like I NEED Jamie. Not cause I couldn't take care of myself but because I believe God intended man to be with woman (me to be with her.) Now before you peeps flame me on that statement, this is my own opinion and I do have friends who are gay.

 

it IS illegal, its called "adultery" and it voids your marriage contract should the partner choose to leave.