I have a good amount of friends. I have a VERY small group of personal trusted friends. Then I have a good amount of friends, then aquaintences. I also have a good number of people I talk to online that I consider a friend, even some that I have met have moved up on the friendship tier.
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Emphasis on VERY

 

Yes, because I don't trust many people with my business.

 

Re: Friends
I've never been one to have a big entourage. I tend to be a pretty independent guy anyway... and with my move down to LA last fall, that's put a lot of distance between myself and my long term friends from NorCal. So right now, I'm in a period of transition. :hsughr:

One thing has been constant though...as I spent my time working in various places, I've forged a bond with people along the way. The year or so I spent writing for the Echo Times was a real pleasure, because of that sense of community.

So yeah, it depends. h:

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Re: GF concerns..
When you say that "you can't be yourself" around your GF's friends, what do you mean?
* Are they jealous and spiteful?
* Are they trying to undermine your relationship with your GF?

If these guy friends are being immature punks, your GF oughta sense that vibe and distance herself from them. For her to take shots at you in front of her clique isn't very mature.. :a:

But OTOH as Eddie said, 3 years is hell of a lot of time to invest in one person. :hs:

Personally, I don't think your GF realizes the impact she has on the future of your relationship.:hsdunno: If your GF knew that you were fed up with the immature taunts, I think she would realize what she's risking and knock that shit off.

My 1.8¥

 

I have about 3 real friends, (people I hangout with and talk on the phone with on a regular basis.) The rest mostly IM convos, never hangout much anymore.

I'm bad about slowly not keeping touch. The longer you wait the weirder it is the next time to think of things to talk about. I've never been a good bullshiter, if I don't have something specific to tell you about I don't call. Also at 26 most of us have gf's/wives, and are starting our own families. Therefore we don't have a lot of time anymore.

 

I have a lot of friends. But there is 2 that I've known since the 1st grade, 1 since 4th, and one since 8th. They are pretty much family to me.

 

I have about 5 good friends from high school... people around school nicknamed us the nightrain posse (after the drink).. 16 years later i trust these guys with my life (which is a very strong statement in this day an age) one of my friends and his mom took me in when my own family would not, and help me get on my feet..... having 5 friends i can depend on with just a phone call..... is precious blessing

 

yeah its a mixed bag of opinions and feelings...i cant say she doesnt know what she has, because she's made it very clear to me what sacrifices and compromises she does for me (finally, she kept it all in until a big break up threat a half year back), and things have looked upward since then...but then more recently this whole group of her friends thing is the new thing to argue about. i dunno, thanks for the advice guys, it helps more than i can express on an online forum.

 

I have very few friends cus i find it very hard to trust alot of people

 

i was an army brat so i travelled all over, made friends everywhere. i think your girlfriend's friends r immature, threatened by u, jealous and r trying to undermind u. sort of a herd mentality going on. when some people get out of their comfort zones they will act out. if all that these friends can do is give u back handed compliments and sarcasm then its about them and not u. its a way to level a situation and weaken someone's self esteem. instead of rising to your level they will pull u down to theirs. latent hostility thing. they r being vague with u on purpose to control u. they cant directly come out and say or do something. i wouldnt put up with this behavior or waste any time on them. they sense u r on to them. dont personalize this or try to explain yourself to them, it just hands control over to them. your instincts r good. just unload them and be glad they r gone.