Originally Posted by Spec R
do you have a lot of friends, or just a few, or none really?
seriously, i always wonder about things like this, because all throughout my life, i never really had that close group of friends who understood u completely. i have about 3 or 4 people i can call true friends, but they are all spread out over california, and we are all too busy with our lives to ever hang out on a regular basis. this puts me in the "none really" category.
my gf has had a group of friends all her life, something like 20 people, many of them guys. i was friends with these guys too, but lately i hear they havent been too fond with my personality since the beginning of me and my gf's relationship (3 years +). conflicts of interest/maturity (i'm the oldest by a couple of years or more) are the culprits. they all live relatively close, and i live about 20 miles away. part of me doesnt care (its been that way from the beginning), but another part hurts because i cant be myself around these people and my gf, at least not the way i am when i'm around MY friends. especially now, now knowing that they poke fun, and my gf joins in on the fun.
sorry for the rant, i have a feeling the relationship with this gf is ending soon...
Re: Friends
I've never been one to have a big entourage. I tend to be a pretty independent guy anyway... and with my move down to LA last fall, that's put a lot of distance between myself and my long term friends from NorCal. So right now, I'm in a period of transition. :hsughr:
One thing has been constant though...as I spent my time working in various places, I've forged a bond with people along the way. The year or so I spent writing for the Echo Times was a real pleasure, because of that sense of community.
So yeah, it depends.
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Re: GF concerns..
When you say that "you can't be yourself" around your GF's friends, what do you mean?
* Are they jealous and spiteful?
* Are they trying to undermine your relationship with your GF?
If these guy friends are being immature punks, your GF oughta sense that vibe and distance herself from them. For her to take shots at you in front of her clique isn't very mature.. :a:
But OTOH as Eddie said, 3 years is hell of a lot of time to invest in one person. :hs:
Personally, I don't think your GF realizes the impact she has on the future of your relationship.:hsdunno: If your GF knew that you were fed up with the immature taunts, I think she would realize what she's risking and knock that shit off.
My 1.8¥