It's been a while since I've been around, but decided to rant a little since I know there's a lot of good listeners/readers around here. I'll try to make this short.

I've been with a girl for about a month and a half now, who I've quickly become crazy about. She's nothing short of my dream girl. Anyway, we've had a lot of pretty deep conversations, and I have found myself opening up to her (which I haven't done with any other girlfriend in the past). I told her that I'd always openly communicate with her, and that I wouldn't keep things from her. She told me the same thing.

Well, I talked with her tonight, and I could immediately tell that she was upset. She said that she was thinking over things pertaining to the 'other side of her that (I) don't know about'. She didn't give me any information about this, except it wasn't something she wanted to talk about over the phone. I made sure I wasn't pushy about the topic, but asked her if everything was alright, which she said yes, and apologized for not talking about it.

So this is what I'm struggling with. I'm a little hurt that she emphasized that there wasn't any secrets/big information about herself that I could or should know, and I guess a little disappointed. On the other hand, I want to help if I can, but these are the things that make me kind of close up emotionally and not want to face.

Anyway, hopefully everyone can understand my bind, and thanks for the time reading this and any input anyone has.

 

Looks like she'll tell you in person. She confessed it with you, if she doesn't want to talk to you about it after that phone call, seems very shady.

 

Yeah, she said it wasn't anything about us, and I appreciate the fact that she mentioned it, but it takes a lot for me to put 100% trust into people, especially when I feel like they tell me things that aren't completely accurate.

 

well, personally, i think the best thing you could do is talk to her in person, one on one, obviously, and be very subtle about bringing up this topic with her. Its a very good sign that you really do want to do something about it, as you stated. however, sometimes you have to go through those things that you dont want to go through. Its not a good idea to just bottle up certain feelings, you have to let them out, and sometimes those feelings are what can make the end result in the relationship.

if this didnt help, im sorry, its 220am and i cant sleep.

 

Nah, it's plenty helpful...thanks for the input. I just wish she didn't say that she didn't have any secrets or big issues and then explain to me that there's a side of her she has never told me about. Like I said, those are the reasons I close up and don't completely trust people. I mean I do trust her, but anyway...what makes it worse is that I naturally analyze and think things over too much...never a great thing.

 

about looking things over too much - happens to alot of people. its ok on certain situations i guess.

its obvious that you put alot of mind into this girl, you both have to work it out, you might have to pick at her, but sometimes its better and safer to know than not too.

you know what, you should be somewhat lucky though. i mean, hey, she did make an effort to tell you something really deep that not that many people may know about, so i mean, its not like shes really leaving you in the dark. its obvious that you guys are at a point where she trust you enough where she will start to tell you her deepest thoughts and such. i dont know.

 

You're probably right...I guess it's just hitting me the wrong way tonight. Thanks again for the insight...wish me luck for tomorrow when I talk to her.

 

good luck holmes. :bandito: