well, personally, i think the best thing you could do is talk to her in person, one on one, obviously, and be very subtle about bringing up this topic with her. Its a very good sign that you really do want to do something about it, as you stated. however, sometimes you have to go through those things that you dont want to go through. Its not a good idea to just bottle up certain feelings, you have to let them out, and sometimes those feelings are what can make the end result in the relationship.

if this didnt help, im sorry, its 220am and i cant sleep.