Need some advice about the womens.

There's this girl I've been seeing a lot of lately... a girl i would love to see exclusively. We've known each other for about 3 years or so, but i've never really been in the friend zone here. She had a BF for awhile, but has been single for a good time, and I know for sure that she is looking for something more.

I keep thinking I am in the friend zone, but be flirt alot. A constant issue I seem to have with the womens is timing. Everything could be spectacular, but things well out of my control will interfere (such as vacations, family emergencies, etc). I feel like I'm in well with this girl, but random things just keep happening.

Tonight, she invited me out with all her friends (all girls). It was alot of fun... went to a bar with open mic, etc. I keep wondering if she is just putting me through the paces... seeing if I can get along with the people that she spends alot of time with.

I don't really have a problem with confrontation, and i'm pretty open when it comes to girls that i am interested in. But, it seems that I am bad at interpreting signals.

For awhile, i had been trying to get her to come out with me, and she simply said "I'm not trying to drink too much, but I'm always down to just hang out and talk". I interpreted that as "we don't have to get drunk, but we can still be together". I asked her out, she said yeah, but then that shitty timing got in the way (as it fucking always does).

Now, tonight, I offered to buy her a beer, and she declined. I went to go piss, and when I get back, I see her best friend (a girl) getting her a beer. I'm just fucking confused because she is always inviting me out and such, and always flirting, but she seems reluctant to subtle moves.

I'm thinking it's just about fucking time to lay it all out on the table. She's not a girl I can just be friends with. There will always be some tension.

what the fuck should I do? I keep thinking that there's really no downside to laying it all out... i'm just sort of nervous about it, but I will do it if necessary.

HAN, wtf do you think?

 

she just wants teh attentions, be honest with her and tell her how you feel

 

don't be up front with it. you kinda wanna avoid doing that imo.. and at this time. i understand it's pretty annoying/frustrating because things are going pretty slow, but there could be a number of reasons why.

i'm getting the feeling she's just keeping you there on the side, no offense, but just as a guy to have. not be friends with, but just as a security thing.
don't feel too bad if this is the case.. i've done it before and didn't even know it for a pretty long time...

 

I had a similar situation a couple years ago...and it went absolutely nowhere.

The chick only wanted me when she couldn't have me. Otherwise she played these friend/more than friend games. Good luck, but it sounds like bad news bears to me. :a:

 

Ass to mouth never fails

 

i'd lay it all out there because if you can't just be friends with her then why try

 

Just talk to her dude. Explain to her what you said to us.

 

You don't lay shit on the table. Grab your balls, pull them out of your body cavity and give this girl no attention.

trust me.

 

a girl who declines a free drink.. interesting.

 

i read none of that besides 'theres this girl'

advice: don't tell her you park cars for a living, start ignoring her more & dont drop everything when she asks you to do something