last night I had quite an interesting talk with the gf...i really really don't think she is over her ex. seems like everytime we see each other she cant help but mention stuff from the past. "when i was with my ex...i always did this, thought this way.." she tells me she really feels drained about certain things and has really lost faith in relationships in general i guess...she was with him for 3 years and it really ended on a bad note i guess. he really wants nothing to do with her and she is the type of person that likes to end things peacefully, and not have all these grudges against people and against her...people, is there anything i can do, i've really just been myself throughout all of these near 9 months we've been together, sometimes i guess i just feel all of this "work" or whatever seems to be for nothing if she cant have true feelings for me because she put so much damn effort into something she thought she could never lose...any feedback would be very very helpfull right now....

 

leave her
you gotta think about yourself

 

both need to figure out what you're ready for and willing to do? :dunno:

 

stuff it in her butt and giggle like a schoolgirl.


If shes that hung up on him you need to move on and let her clear her mind before anything good can happen.

 

the thing is i think she is hung up on how hurt she got and how its killing her so much inside, she is afraid its gonna happen again or something

 

and she put all this effort into 3 years, "3 years for what" she always says, she seems to have very little trust, and her beliefs have changed

 

I can relate to that, but damn, you two been together 9mos, she should be sure by now. Vulnerability/trust is a bitch h:

 

i just dont get why she just cant move on and enjoy life with someone like myself, she tells me she wants to but at the same time these feelings inside are haunting her.

 

yeah man, exactly...thats what frustrates the sh*t outta me..

 

like i said you gotta think about yourself