Sounds like a bad situation where she's hung up on him and the past...I'd move on if I were you.

 

I'd move on, my ex was like that too.. she couldnt let go of her ex. i later find out she hung out with him a few times behind my back. id just get out of the situation now.

 

she's not over her ex yet and it's going to take A LOT of time. She can't care about anyone else, especially if you met right after her break up with him. I wouldn't stay in the relationship and just offer to be friends with her.

 

Move on....get on the good foot...and kick that bird to the curb

 

You're a crutch to her, not a partner. You deserve someone who has the past in the past and has accepted it.

 

unresolved issues can linger a long time. she isnt going to get the response she wants out of her ex, there is no clear closure..she isnt ready to chalk him up as a bad experience..hopefully she wont judge all men according to how he treated her..give her space and take care of yourself..she in turn may do the same for herself..

 

eh... i will agree with everyone. Althought i understand your situation you really like her yeah? and you tried... i was in the same situation and 3 months later she finally let go of her pass but for the first 3 months the relationship wasnt all that great.
If after 9 month she still cant let go then dude as hard as it can be you gots to let her go and wish her the best.

 

quick question ... how long was the time period between her breakup and you guys dating?

I hate to say it, but rebounds turn into relationship bandaids that fall off over time.

 

well we met i THINK around 6-7 months after her break up with him...its funny though, sometimes this part of her will come out and say "fck him, what a loser, etc..." and then she will be like "i don't know how i could think that about someone who i cared for so deeply..etc" i know she really wants to love me and at times i know its there, but its like there is this barrier...ughhhh!!?!

 

tell her how you feel and judge ur decision on how she reacts.