last night I had quite an interesting talk with the gf...i really really don't think she is over her ex. seems like everytime we see each other she cant help but mention stuff from the past. "when i was with my ex...i always did this, thought this way.." she tells me she really feels drained about certain things and has really lost faith in relationships in general i guess...she was with him for 3 years and it really ended on a bad note i guess. he really wants nothing to do with her and she is the type of person that likes to end things peacefully, and not have all these grudges against people and against her...people, is there anything i can do, i've really just been myself throughout all of these near 9 months we've been together, sometimes i guess i just feel all of this "work" or whatever seems to be for nothing if she cant have true feelings for me because she put so much damn effort into something she thought she could never lose...any feedback would be very very helpfull right now....