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DAMIMRED
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From: Syracuse, NY
Originally Posted by Discosmurf
I'm not trying to make a mockery of your situation just trying to lighten your mood a little.
If you're that worried about fitting in, one day why not make an attempt to make plans with them? Say you were thinking about going to such and such place and ask them to join you. Or make friends with less gossipy folk.
If you're that worried about fitting in, one day why not make an attempt to make plans with them? Say you were thinking about going to such and such place and ask them to join you. Or make friends with less gossipy folk.
im trying to find another gig but in this job market, your options are few and far between, right now awaiting a call-back from a local org that i applied at to be the director of marketing and community relations.... here's hoping....
I want 2 B cool like u!
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From: dont you wish
Originally Posted by Discosmurf
Why are you so worried about fitting in? Be yourself and don't care what the heck they think of you. They only conspire about weekend activites and later discuss them in front of you because they think they're superior. They're looking down their nose at you.
Screw 'em. Take your extended bathroom and lunch breaks. They should learn some multitasking and get some of the work done themselves.
Screw 'em. Take your extended bathroom and lunch breaks. They should learn some multitasking and get some of the work done themselves.
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DAMIMRED
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well im glad to hear that you got one and that everybody there loves you and you get along with everybody - but if there is somebody you dont get a long with, you dont give a shit cuz they probably work far enough away from you that it has no effect on you, your work, or anything else about you. maybe they have an opening there so i can work in such a harmonious place.
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From: Portland, OR
Originally Posted by ISP James
well im glad to hear that you got one and that everybody there loves you and you get along with everybody - but if there is somebody you dont get a long with, you dont give a shit cuz they probably work far enough away from you that it has no effect on you, your work, or anything else about you. maybe they have an opening there so i can work in such a harmonious place.
Naw, its really boring and 3k miles away. You can have it if you want when I go back to school on Jan. 2nd though.
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DAMIMRED
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Originally Posted by RB
Naw, its really boring and 3k miles away. You can have it if you want when I go back to school on Jan. 2nd though.
sounds like a plan, :goodjob:
cant be any more boring than the one i have now.
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I know what you mean about wanting to fit in. Its not like you really care about going out with them, its just like feeling like the outsider 
maybe just with one of them try to strike up a conversation with them......i dunno how you are IRL, but if you are quiet or shy, they might think you don't want to hang out with them. Are you doing anything with your behavior that may come off the wrong way?
maybe just with one of them try to strike up a conversation with them......i dunno how you are IRL, but if you are quiet or shy, they might think you don't want to hang out with them. Are you doing anything with your behavior that may come off the wrong way?
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Originally Posted by xsentrixsupra
I know what you mean about wanting to fit in. Its not like you really care about going out with them, its just like feeling like the outsider maybe just with one of them try to strike up a conversation with them......i dunno how you are IRL, but if you are quiet or shy, they might think you don't want to hang out with them. Are you doing anything with your behavior that may come off the wrong way?
maybe just with one of them try to strike up a conversation with them......i dunno how you are IRL, but if you are quiet or shy, they might think you don't want to hang out with them. Are you doing anything with your behavior that may come off the wrong way?IRL, ive been told im a pretty charismatic and easy to get along with guy, im not too shy once i get to know you, at first i might be a little quiet but gimme a day or 2 and im comfy... i chat somewhat regularly with them but there are times where i feel like im completely out of the loop, almost as if im working by myself.