Hey I'm sure they'd appreciate your company for a day or two.

Another thing I like to do is get in my car, find some road to tear up and blast some music. System of a Down works well.

 

not to worry, a new episode of the oc is coming up this week.

 

sometimes, just getting everything off your chest will help. it usually does for me.

if you need an ear, i'll look for you later on tonight on aim. h: :hugglez:

 

thanks


its not that I really lost all my friends, but a lot of my friends back in high school didn't end up going to the same college as my gf and I did...so we really clung to each other. After that I never really made an attempt to make friends because I got so comfortable just being my gf and I. Her and I are still great friends, and we will continue to be, but it IS hard to get over her since she is my roomie. I don't want either of us to move out because all I really need is time, but in the mean time I just need to be happy and not thing about all this stuff thats keeping me depressed.

 

:rofl:

thanks ducky

 

you need to go out and socialize. me and my gf are the same way. we really clung to each other in the beginning couple years of our relationship. its not exactly a bad thing, but its not healthy either. you get too dependant on each other. but now, im meeting new folks, and shes joining a shitload of clubs and doing mucho volunteering so shes meeting and hanging out with quite a few people too. and i think we are both much happier, but we still love each other like no other.

 

I get my mind off of it by getting out on the Pacific Coast Highway and taking a nice, long relaxing drive...usually with some cuban jazz or Louis Armstrong.

Once out by Pt. Reyes Lighthouse - or some other place, it's simply a matter of letting go of the pain, by actively recognizing the validity of your current emotional state, and then choosing to put it behind you. The Dalai Lama's book, The Art Of Happiness: A Handbook for Living is a fantastic book to help you cognitively and emotionally become more self-aware and at ease. I recommend it highly.

I've also found that just writing... er, typing - to get the emotions out - also helps. Think of it as neural catharsis through the fingers. I strongly recommend against turning to destructive vices as a means of coping.. it can lead to serious physical and mental health issues in the long run.

My 2Ą

 

Recent things I've done to combat these shitty times:

-Gone to church to see if there's a God
-Often talked to my best friend/cousin about her
-Been boozing for the past several days
-Driving the piss out of my car

It's not that recommend these, It's just an insight that's all.

 

find whatever used to get your mind off of irritating issues (a hobby? - other then car related) and work at that. Hang out at the library....I know I know...my pop always tells me to do this and I have yet to try it .

Listen to some uplifting music. If you start crankin the hard core death metal or gangster rap, your just gonna get more pissed off.

Drinking only intensifies the mood your in. If your pissed/depressed, you'll get more pissed/depressed.

Buy something for yourself.

Find some recipes and start cooking :dunno:

Main thing, keep yourself occupied.

 

I have been really down lately so I brought my motorcyle out of storage, put it in my room, and am in the process of tearing it down to the frame to have it re-powder coated....rebuildin the carbs..engine etc....keeps my mind off things...other than that I usually get drunk with the boys and try to keep my mind off the stupid shit that is bothering me....and when I used to smoke I would sit with a pack a cigs, turn the lights off and hit up the black light and listen to some pink floyd...I dunno I am a wierdo...but it helped relax me with its crazy beats and rythms