ride_outs threads made me wonder, when do you guys think is a good age to get married/have kids.

My parents got married when my mom was 26 and my dad was 33. My brother was born when my mom was 33 and I was born when she was 39. Maybe thats why their marriage lasted 25 years.

 

Maybe you should get off your high ass horse.

There's no set age for a successful marriage, and just because people stay together doesn't mean they're happy.

 

whenever i think im ready...
people will have different answers..
but i kinda know myself...i wont b ready for awhile..

 

Statistics prove most marriages that occur when the couple is very young don't last very long. You don't learn to walk first, you first learn how to sit and then crawl and then you learn how to walk. If you jump into marriage when you are fairly young you potentially end up realizing you are with the wrong person because your perspective on life has changed.

I am not on a high horse, actually now that I think of it can I have a pony. h:

 

this thread is just asking for flames.

B4 its locked.I will say this. My mother gave birth to me at age 25, she was married B4 that to my brothes father and my brother is 4 years older then I. My mother and father have been married for 29 years and just recently seperated.

 

back your facts

 

Threads get locked because of stupidity.

I never said there was a set age for people to get married, I just wanted to see what everyone thought was their age of "maturity". My parents marriage failed after 25 years together, so that doesn't prove crap.

Me I know I am just starting to know who I am. I think I might be ready to get married maybe by the time I turn 25 or 26.

 

it all depends. My mom and dad had me when my mom was 21 and my dad was 20. They are still together after 22 years. It all depends. Just have to be willing to work through things and hope when you got married that you found the true love. Things dont always work out. I dont think you can say "if you get married at such and such age your marriage will succeed." Gotta be in love and be willing to compromise

 

"Maturity" is not set by age. it's set by the person..I knwo a 16 yr old that is far more mature then her 42 yr old mother.

 

Obviously maturity tends to come with age.

What I'm saying is that in upper middle class suburbia I've seen way too many 15- or 20-year marriages go to shit for whatever reason and just as catastrophically if not more so than what can happen to people who get married "too young" and stay together for less than 5 years.

I know it sounds pessimistic but it's mainly why I know I want to be DAMN sure that I'm doing the right thing when I get married because I've seen too many families that I'm close with get fucked up beyond recognition.