(please note, if this comes off as harsh, it's the truth in my eyes. If you don't want to hear it, I can understand, but realize I've been around long enough to spot bullshit and lies)
Originally Posted by
theunforgivenii
She said that we've both matured alot and that it doesnt seem like we had what we used to, and that she at times doesnt want to be in a relationship and doesnt want to lead me on to something that isnt there.. thing is, ive felt like that too but I did not want to put her through this.. even though she was crying more than I was. I know she is sorry for doing this, but maybe it was better.. maybe its just a break and maybe she'll change her feelings, because I know I will be stuck on her for a long time..
I haven't looked at your profile at all, but I'm guessing you're in your early 20's? (maybe 22 or 23?)
What's happening to her is ... well ... she wants to have that new relationship rush again. It's really not you, it's her inner sensation to skank around ... hang off of other guys ... and well, "live life".
She views the 2 year relationship as a weight that's holding her back. Since she can't rationalize her inner desire to be with other guys (because she can't ... if she did, she'd openly admit she was wrong and is a whore), she's saying all sorts of BS like "I don't want to hurt you"
It sucks, but she's saying anything to:
1) save face
2) end this asap
3) move on with minimal guilt
by doing this, she can keep the door to you wide open. She can be a skank, run back to you if needed ... she's scared of looking like an idiot.
Originally Posted by
theunforgivenii
I cant do that.. not until Im over this.. she's still my best friend if she ever needs anything, I will be there.
You need to realize you've been screwed over. No "best friend" would ever do this. She completely upped, took her ball, and went home.
Originally Posted by
theunforgivenii
Thanks man, I really hope she just needs to think about it..
She did, her mind is made up.
She's only saying what she has to in order to save face.
again, sorry if it's brutal, but I'm serious when answering these questions.