for those of you in long distance relationships.....how do u deal with it?

some of you know that i was dating a new girl in the summer, and we got together about a month ago i knew she had to leave for san diego for grad school, but we liked each other a lot, so we said we'll give it a shot. the distance is about 450 miles...an 8-9 hour drive, or an 80 minute flight.

anyway, we had a little time together up here, before she moved down. we get along great, and i feel this is relationship is going somewhere. but the distance is really killing me...we talk on the phone every day, and AIM each other when we can. it's just not the same as person-person contact though.

i helped her move in two weeks ago, and i just visited her this past weekend. each time i left, it was agonizing. i hate to sound like a wuss, but the drive home was horrible (i flew home the first time). i basically had 9 hours to sit in the car by myself, knowing that i wont see her again for 3 weeks. i'm normally a very laid back & level-headed guy, but i cant stop thinking about her/this situation.

i was in a semi-long distance relationship before, but it was only a 2 hour drive. it was far, but close enough to drive up there every weekend and spend the night. with my hectic schedule (50 hr weeks are normal here at work) and the time i need to give to my family, it makes it really difficult to see her often. on a side note, it also gets pretty expensive. i cant really expect her to come up here too often, because she's a student w/o a job (airfare) and doesn't like driving long distances.

i dont really know what the point of this whole post is, or why the fuck i'm typing this. i guess i'm just confused on how to deal with this shit.

 

damn bro, i wish i'd experienced this so i could help

 

Well, like you've said in the past, you know you want to move down to SoCal in the future. Only you can decide whether she's worth it or not. h:

 

i always planned on moving to so cal anyway....but this also adds to it (she's down there for 5 years for the phd program). i probably wont do it for at least a year though...so i still need to find a way to deal w/it :happysad:

 

well.. you could always stop being a pussy about it

 

that sucks man. Long distance relationships can be very hard but if the bond is there they can work out. It sounds like your motivated enougha dn that this girl is really special. If you two put in the effort it will work out. I'm not saying it will always be easy but things that are worth while usually never are easy. Goodluck bro

 

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that's something i would say hahahaha

 

I know :exnbp:


but seriously, bro.. sounds like things are very good with you two, a year ain't ish if this ends up being something serious, ya know?

 

hmm i dunno. maybe seeing her every month or so will keep things interesting .

 

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