stop trying to find someone. I found my gf of now 4yrs when I finally stopped looking for someone. It all works out in the end.

 

i dont know if im ugly or not, i dont judge myself, im 6'2" 250lbs hazel eyes, shaved head. Alot of people say i look like a real asshole.

when i talk to girls im a real nice guy, i try not to say the wrong thing. Sometimes i do but i can cover pretty quickly. I hang out with my buddy Ben all the time he is like my brother (he is also the guy that i mentioned).

Its been over 3 years since the broken engagement, and i dont know why im still hung up on it, i just am i guess. Im only 20 years old also, but when i meet people they think im like 28 because of how i act, i dont act childish, and i dont act like an asshole. My ex fiance told me that i look like a bear, but am nice and soft like a teddy bear. Just my outside appearance tends to scare people off. I dont know, i try not to look for somebody and then i catch myself looking, i guess its just a natural habit.

 

I'm sorry to hear that...

But I'm also a relationship type too..so i know what you mean by finding that someone to spend quality time with...
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it sounds like you're not being yourself around girls. if you have to "act" nicer than normal, you're putting up a front. that only sets you up for disaster, because the "real" you will eventually pop up.

in addition, the more you dwell on being single, the more it hurts....and the more desperate you appear.

thank god i don't have a dependence for relationships.

 

why the =/ ? You got a man

 

She wants some Deekotine in her life

 

:huh:

 

you were engaged at 17? Wow.

In any event, you are ONLY 20, you can't even legally drink yet. Don't get so worried about not finding someone so soon. Just relax, be yourself, and let them come to you.

 

i dont have a dependance for relationships, its just like for 2 years i have done nothing but blow money on my car, and now i just want to blow money on a girl.... is that so wrong?

The one date that i did have since i have been out here only talked about her ex boyfriend and how much she was still in love with him, i took her home after dinner.....

I dont put up a front for people when i talk to them, i gave that up a long ass time ago, i let people see who i really am, i dont have to act nice, i am nice, i dont put a front up for people to see, if they dont like who i am phuck em.

 

look man, i didnt say it was wrong or whatever...im just speaking for myself. when you said "when i talk to girls im a real nice guy, i try not to say the wrong thing" - i saw that as acting differently.

anyway, dont take offense to what i said, i'm not trying to talk sh*t to you.