Been a while since we had an official thrend no?

What brings it up this time? Well.. I did a lot of searching, but couldn't find the thread where I asked about if I should tell my friend the girl he was going to marry was no good for him and using him etc etc. The advice given was to let it go and be there for him for when they split.

Well, less than a year after their marriage.. They are getting a divorce. It sounds hairy, but from what I can figure out. He wanted another kid, she didn't. She ended up getting pregnant and having a miscarriage, started acting funny, then started going to her moms after work for extended periods of time, and when she was home wouldn't act right and was always fighting and defensive. Well, apparently he hopped on her facebook and she has been chatting it up with some other guy, and he asked her if she was seeing someone else. I guess they had another fight, she packed up and moved to her moms with her kids, and he asked if she wanted to try to work it out, but she wants a divorce.

Sucky part is, if this is all true, she initiated all this and is still entitled to half of his equity, even though he already had the house and junk prior to the marriage. I still think she was just looking for someone to provide for her and her kids from the start.

Sad to say, I saw it coming, but I thought it would last longer than that..

On another note, approaching 3 years with the lady... that's about it.

 

Always tell a bro where you stand. That's one of the things your friends need from you. They may not like what you have to say but you're friends. I have a buddy dealing with the same shit and now all he can say is " I wish I would have listened to you guys"

 

if i knew she was going to take half his shit, i would've voted to tell him about it

 

Getting married in 51 days.

 

how is she entitled to half his stuff if they've only been married less than a year? isn't the whole point of that kind of settlement that the spouse with the lesser income has become dependent on the other and has spent their life taking care of kids/house instead of building a career, and is therefore entitled to compensation?

 

Depends on state. In CA for example it's 50/50 no bullshit state. Meaning even if you were married for just 1 second, then got divorced, it's 50/50. Spousal and child support is another story.

Edit: that is only if the 2 parties don't come up to amicable property split.

 

Sounds very similar of what happened to me. I wish I would have had a friend tell me not to do it...

 

in mass they say 50/50 but its more like 60/40 favor of the woman. the judges always give them more even if they start the shit.

 

sucks for your boy fo sho...women seem to get the better split these days

been hanging with the same chick since march ... going pretty darn well.

 

As for me, things are going pretty good, we're both kinda stressed out, so we're a little bit edgy with eachother, but nothing too bad. A little past the 2 year mark. If I had more money laying around, I would probably be thinking about putting a ring on that shit

Buddy of mine went through a very similar situation earlier this year, but thankfully was only officially married a few weeks and he lawyered up and got an annulment. Bitch was hoping to get half his house, business, etc. Fuck that!