Relationship question
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From: MI
Dude, just because someone has pictures of someone from the past doesnt mean they should delete them because someone new came along. Those are called 'memories.' Its completely normal so calm down. You acting this way shows a HUGE insecurity. And if you're scared that she didnt tell you because she knew you'd react this way leads me to believe she knows how you'd react = insecure.
First thing you need to realize is you're with her now and that should boost any and all problems you have. Stop and take a drink of reality - thats life man; people were with other before you and thats that.
Calm down and OWN the situation otherwise you're gonna regret acting soft and intimidated. Girls can smell that shit like cheap cologne.
First thing you need to realize is you're with her now and that should boost any and all problems you have. Stop and take a drink of reality - thats life man; people were with other before you and thats that.
Calm down and OWN the situation otherwise you're gonna regret acting soft and intimidated. Girls can smell that shit like cheap cologne.
I've never understood the whole "you should delete all pictures/e-mails/texts/etc." from exes once you break up with them. Like Craigorz said, they're memories. Deleting stuff won't change the fact that that ish happened. In 20 years none of that will mean anything, but it'll be interesting to look back and see what life was like.
I also wouldn't have a problem with her working with her ex. Such is life. The only thing that would be concerning would be if she actively hid the fact that she worked with him from you. I'm a firm believer in total honesty being a cornerstone of any functional relationship. So unless she was hiding that fact from you, there really isn't a problem.
I also wouldn't have a problem with her working with her ex. Such is life. The only thing that would be concerning would be if she actively hid the fact that she worked with him from you. I'm a firm believer in total honesty being a cornerstone of any functional relationship. So unless she was hiding that fact from you, there really isn't a problem.
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From: glass case of emotion
but, as a secure person ... there is a threshold of bullshit. If there's enough ex artifacts around, then it becomes an issue of the other person not letting go. Clearly, they're not over things and are with you just to be with someone.
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From: Diego
Was going to post this.
How serious are you guys?
My guess is your definition of serious and her definition of serious are not the same.
As long as you're still having sex with her regularly I wouldn't worry.
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From: Golden, CO
Agree with this. Ex photos shouldn't be framed and on the wall, nor should mementos be prominently displayed on the bookshelf. But some things from a trip packed away in a box, or as in Tark's case digital photos in some random PC folder? That doesn't mean they're not letting go, it just means they don't get rid of things in order to appease insecure new boyfriends.
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