you really shouldn't rely so heavily on "scientific studies"

Not like there aren't psychologists writing books and doing studies that completely oppose those of which you believe in.

Thanks for you opinon on the issue, finally! However I'm not quite understanding. Do you mean I was wrong for going out to get my nephew, who was being chastised for waking up before his mom could get enough sleep? Or was I wrong for what was said?

 

Well since you did step in, I think its good that you said something. And you're right, at such a young age its better to step in when crying occurs. I didn't want you to think that my first post applied directly to this case...as I said there is a point where "rescuing" the child is harmful rather than helpful. Obviously when the child is this young it won't hurt him. I was making more of a general statement as I don't know how old he is.

 

I would say you were right and wrong. You were right to tell her that it's her fault for getting so little sleep that she has to scold her 7mo old baby and wake your brother up. That lets her realize that maybe she should be doing things differently. The only way I'd say you might be wrong is in your delivery. In an ideal world, you would have been firm and assertive about your thoughts without adding ridicule to your words. But 6am with a crying baby and a frustrated mother is hardly a perfect world. So eh, I'm no expert but I agree with fatbooty in that you should all have a nice calm talk about what should be happening when everyone's awake.

 

Gotcha, thanks for clearing that up.

Just to make sure, when the exchange occurred that brought her to tears, it was at roughly 2 in the afternoon not at 6am with a crying baby and frustrated mother. But I have decided that im not gonna talk to her/them about it. No reason to. I'm not gonna tell them what to do, they are grown, they can do what they want. But I won't sit there and let her have an attitude with my nephew cause she doesn't feel like being a mother right then and there. And no reason for me to say anything to her about waking my brother up cause he's just gonna get up next time anyway so why even bother?

I just hope now she knows not to treat my nephew like that anymore, cause he doesn't deserve that at all. She didn't have a problem acting like an adult to make the baby so I figure she shouldn't have a problem being an adult to take care of him either.

 

you weren't wrong, but you should still bite your tongue in a situation like that. New parents are real testy. Its their kid, and I'm sure she doesn't want to hear "parenting tips" from her "bro in law."

 

The funny thing is that I wouldn't have said anything to her about it had she not tried to justify her actions with the fact that she stayed up all night. I was planning on saying something to my brother so he could handle it but she blew it. There is nothing I dislike more than when parents act as if they're children are a burden.

I did bite my tongue though.......................today she was feeding him and he's usually ready for another spoonful before the spoonful is ready for him, and today he was a little more impatient. She says to him, "you need to learn how to be patient" She said it in a nice way, but I thought to myself "you need to learn how to follow your own advice."