i agree 100%

 

oh my god. I would agree if it's a toddler we're talking about, but we're talking about a 7 month old baby. I hope you guys don't have kids, I doubt you do cause you obviously know NOTHING about parenthood

 

How, exactly, is it "overbearing" to get up wtih your child? Did you mean "overwhelming"?

 

They are sort of describing the Ferber method as brought to an extreme by Robert DeNiro in Meet the Fockers. It's not actually like the movie in real life.

http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/bab...leep/7755.html

And...that's still definitely not the only way to do it.

But all this doesn't really have anything to do with how he should handle his brother's gf.

 

I kinda agree with RB here, my brother being the older one got pampered as a baby and my parents went to extremes to keep him happy. They'd drive endlessly for hours because he only fell asleep when the car was moving. When I was born they took a slightly different approach, I used to cry a lot and instead of satisfying my every whim they let me cry. By the third day I had lost my voice and shut up.

But, its still a baby and if you can't be a mother and take care of him then there are problems. I don't think you went out of line at all, you are a parent yourself and you had every right to do what you did.

 

So very true

Thank you. The issue here is that instead of getting sleep when she can(the baby goes to be at or around 9pm and doesn't usually wake up until 6 or 7am) she stays up so she can be up with my brother who doesn't normally go to bed earlier than 3am. And then she is all frustrated/mad that she's got to get up when the baby gets up at 6 or 7 cause she's hella tire, maybe only slept for an hour or two. And she acts like my nephew is a burden, and will wake up my brother to do her job. I know, it's his child too, but when he's the only one working and has the work the next day, it's her job to take care of the baby!

 

Not at night/sleep time. And this is true sometimes during the day when the kid is a little older, but it usually means they are tired and need to sleep for a few.

Babies wake up and that's that. They need parents. Maybe she shouldn't have had a kid yet.

 

Have you ever taken a psychology class? Social and cognitive development? Child behavior? Read any psychology books?


Go ahead and disagree with me all you want...you'd just be disagreeing with child psycholgists and sound research. Not my problem.

 

I've had something you haven't had, the wonderful opprotunity to raise two beautiful children of my own. I don't need a class or a psychologist to tell me what I should/shouldn't be doing with/to/for my children, and you surely don't have any qualifications to be trying to give advice on the subject either.

I will tell you now, plain as day, that no human being in their right mind will tell you to ignore your child who has woken up crying after sleeping for at least 9hrs. If that's what you believe in, that's on you, but I think that's the most ignorant bs you could even think about doing.

But again, like FatBooty stated, this has NOTHING to do with the question. Was I wrong for my part in the exchange that led to her going to her room crying?

 

What you're failing to realize that its not "ignoring". Thats a common misnomer. That is simply not the case. And as far as me not having any qualifications...frankly I never said I did, but they do have psycholgists write those "how to raise your child" books for a reason. Besides, your method has yet to prove long term results

Anyway, I think you should have stayed out of it, unless you can be there every time a situtation like this arises, and that is probably unlikely. They've got to deal with their own issues.