i need to get a break from da ex gf
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i need to get a break from da ex gf
Cliff notes of relationship since breakup- we broke up about 2 months ago, she hooks up with a guy 3 days afterwards and starts dating other people (fine with me, bothered me at first but now I could care less)
Still talking to her constantly (almost daily) and trying to stay good friends
she still calls me names (baby sweety etc) and says she loves me, just not IN love with me
I go along with it because i know it doesnt mean anything to her or me (we both know (read- knew) we are just good friends)
So im at college now, haven't seen her for more than a month
two weeks ago shes begging me to come back home and see her, getting mad at me because im not (only second weekend in college, 8 hour round trip home and I told her before I left im NOT coming back home every two weeks like last year)
I have been planning on coming home this weekend, and told her this about 3 weeks ago, and said if i come back home we have to hang out alot because she would be the one i would drive 8 hours to see. She said oh definitely for sure she would love to hang out with me alot.
Well last night we were talking and she was telling me about all these plans she had made this weekend:
1. going out to movie with guy #1 on friday and probably dinner
2. hanging out most of saturday and going to the beach with guy #2
3. partying saturday night with guy #3
So im like wtf, i thought we were going to hang out alot, looks like i might be able to hang out with you sunday for like 2 hours because of church and homework and having to drive back to school... and she say she made plans because she couldnt handle hanging out with me alot right now, it would be too hard for her.... remember, 1. she can hook up with and hang out with all these guys and not bother her since we broke up, and 2. she was complaining and begging sooo much about me not coming home two weekends ago 3. she can call me baby and sweety and say she loves me and talk to me on the phone almost daily... but yet its still "too hard for her to see me alot"
seems to me like she has better things to do than hang out with me this weekend, so i'm not going back and im contemplating whether or not to still try to be friends with her, i might just break it off all together, our friendship seems to be bullshit now, and she just wants someone to talk to after school or something.
Discuss?
Still talking to her constantly (almost daily) and trying to stay good friends
she still calls me names (baby sweety etc) and says she loves me, just not IN love with me
I go along with it because i know it doesnt mean anything to her or me (we both know (read- knew) we are just good friends)
So im at college now, haven't seen her for more than a month
two weeks ago shes begging me to come back home and see her, getting mad at me because im not (only second weekend in college, 8 hour round trip home and I told her before I left im NOT coming back home every two weeks like last year)
I have been planning on coming home this weekend, and told her this about 3 weeks ago, and said if i come back home we have to hang out alot because she would be the one i would drive 8 hours to see. She said oh definitely for sure she would love to hang out with me alot.
Well last night we were talking and she was telling me about all these plans she had made this weekend:
1. going out to movie with guy #1 on friday and probably dinner
2. hanging out most of saturday and going to the beach with guy #2
3. partying saturday night with guy #3
So im like wtf, i thought we were going to hang out alot, looks like i might be able to hang out with you sunday for like 2 hours because of church and homework and having to drive back to school... and she say she made plans because she couldnt handle hanging out with me alot right now, it would be too hard for her.... remember, 1. she can hook up with and hang out with all these guys and not bother her since we broke up, and 2. she was complaining and begging sooo much about me not coming home two weekends ago 3. she can call me baby and sweety and say she loves me and talk to me on the phone almost daily... but yet its still "too hard for her to see me alot"
seems to me like she has better things to do than hang out with me this weekend, so i'm not going back and im contemplating whether or not to still try to be friends with her, i might just break it off all together, our friendship seems to be bullshit now, and she just wants someone to talk to after school or something.
Discuss?
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Dude grow a pair of balls and get her out of your life.
Seriously after you break up you have to have time seperately, if in a few months down the road you run into each other and still feel the need to be friends then fine.
I still have no clue why people think continuing a friendship with the person you just broke up with is ever a good thing. In short, finish kicking the bitch to the curb because she is playing your emotions the same as you are trying to do to her.
Seriously after you break up you have to have time seperately, if in a few months down the road you run into each other and still feel the need to be friends then fine.
I still have no clue why people think continuing a friendship with the person you just broke up with is ever a good thing. In short, finish kicking the bitch to the curb because she is playing your emotions the same as you are trying to do to her.
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Originally Posted by Nightshade
Dude grow a pair of balls and get her out of your life.
Seriously after you break up you have to have time seperately, if in a few months down the road you run into each other and still feel the need to be friends then fine.
Seriously after you break up you have to have time seperately, if in a few months down the road you run into each other and still feel the need to be friends then fine.
EXACTLY. Being friends is cool, but don't try it right after you break up. You need space. I haven't seen or spoken to my ex in almost 3 months, and its done me a world of good.
Seriously you need to move on and worry about your life instead of driving 4 hours one way to hang out w/ your ex who has obviously moved on.
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Originally Posted by Nightshade
Dude grow a pair of balls and get her out of your life.
Seriously after you break up you have to have time seperately, if in a few months down the road you run into each other and still feel the need to be friends then fine.
I still have no clue why people think continuing a friendship with the person you just broke up with is ever a good thing. In short, finish kicking the bitch to the curb because she is playing your emotions the same as you are trying to do to her.
Seriously after you break up you have to have time seperately, if in a few months down the road you run into each other and still feel the need to be friends then fine.
I still have no clue why people think continuing a friendship with the person you just broke up with is ever a good thing. In short, finish kicking the bitch to the curb because she is playing your emotions the same as you are trying to do to her.
I have been thinking about cutting off the friendship for a while now, and I think this just put it over the top.
We tried it, it obviously didn't work... no need rehashing the obvious.
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Originally Posted by RB
EXACTLY. Being friends is cool, but don't try it right after you break up. You need space. I haven't seen or spoken to my ex in almost 3 months, and its done me a world of good.
Seriously you need to move on and worry about your life instead of driving 4 hours one way to hang out w/ your ex who has obviously moved on.
Seriously you need to move on and worry about your life instead of driving 4 hours one way to hang out w/ your ex who has obviously moved on.
