I met a girl that I really like in the middle of all this too... But she doesn't have enough time for me between her school work and her job. She lives up in LA and I am in SD. Oh how I lof her! Excpet, I fear she doesn't like me as much but she is the first girl I have cared this much about since my ex. She even makes me consider not hooking up with my ex's friends when I go home.

 

she started it :dunno:

And i don't see myself as having not moved on.... i have moved on, i just thought it would be nice if the x and i could still be friends, but that didnt work... live and learn.

 

try doing what you say after breaking up with an incredibly hot girl that still around..... i guarantee you won't be so noble.

 

so have you moved on now?????? How's it with the new chick?

 

1. Don't go home this weekend, and don't call her to tell her your not.

2. If she calls you expecting your in town, just tell her you have plans with a girl you met to go out on saturday night. Then you say, opps shes calling on the other line right now, I gotta go, hang up.

Don't answer anymore calls from her for a week. If she still has any feelings for you this will drive her crazy with curiousity

 

:werd: If you talk about that stuff when you've just started hanging out with the new girl, you're never going to get anywhere with her, because nobody wants to be option 2 (I said Option2 :reechy: ).
Um, anyway, talk of ex's should not come until later on in the relationship. At that point, she can be sure it's not an issue anymore.

 

Yeah, i have... but just because i have moved on doesn't mean i have to be going out with another girl... this other girl is really cool and i think we could be great friends, but i am really not looking for another serious relationship right now, and neither is she so i guess everything works out.

 

Like i said, im definitely not looking for a relationship right now, and she isnt either... she knows that im dont want to get back with my ex at all, she asked me and i made it clear to her about that, but, even still i wouldnt get in a relationship with her any time soon so i dont see any harm done :dunno: Plus she was the one who brought up the topic of ex's, talking about her's that is on the same campus and how he annoys her alot...

 

Ah ah, and the truth finally comes out. She seemingly turned down all the offers to go out with the other guys because she still thought i was coming home (maybe she thought that i was just saying that because i was mad?)... and now she finally tells me that she doesn't want to hang out alot with me because shes scared that she will start to want and go out with me again. She didnt want to tell me that because she was embarassed and scared of my reaction. Now it all makes sense to me... and i really feel like if i go back and visit her nothing good will come out of it in the long run.

 

:nono: definately DO NOT have any contact with her for the next week or so, this will be good therapy for her.