**** that! Its not like he cheated on her!


Dude...don't listen to this. You don't have to proove shit :down:

 

3 months...5 more weeks and I wont have to see her again. But we have mutual friends and her new boyfriend is the next door neighbor, so come fall term I'm sure I'll see her every now and then. But the next three months of no communication with her will be a gift from God.

 

She's mad that he lied. The entire fact that he lied about it for so long makes it sound suspiciously like he DID do something in the VIP section (I'm not saying you did) and that was why he was hiding from her. If he's lying to her about something that was "inconsequential" what else is he lying to her about?

 

if she's still willing to be friends with you (she might come around), thats how she'll be able to see that you dont lie anymore. thats how my ex and i did it...even to be friends with me was hard because of what we went through, and the things that i did and lied about...but i proved to him that i'm not like that anymore, because i realized how much pain and anger it caused him and i and everyone around us...its still something that we're working on to this day, because its so hard to regain trust..but it can be done.

If she wont even talk to you though, and doesnt try to talk to u soon...i wouldnt worry about her. let her go. honestly.

But seriously, why go to the VIP when she's at home waiting for u? I dont care about the strip club, but why teh VIP? :dunno: i'd be pissed too if you lied to me about that...most girls would. It's not so much that you were in teh VIP but that you lied...know what i mean?

:werd:erages!

 

Well now that it was just about going to a strip club - then I totally agree with you! :stupid:

I was thinking they have unresolvable differences or shit like that. Thats a whole different story.

But like I said in my earlier post - its his mountain to climb.

 

True story. Lying doesn't do any good...you might think it does to get you out of a jam at first, but then they find out about lying and get uber pissed. Getting trust back is hard, but can be done. The stalker status you have with her isn't helping your case at all either.

 

Thanks HAN for the advice and support *cough*Duffman*cough* but I've a had a few pretty alright days without her so i think everything will be alright.

Theres another side to this story that is coming out, and it involves her (my ex), and a close friend of mine. There is lots of suspicious things happening and they've lied twice about hanging out together already. So if she's willing to do shit like that (if its true...) then I am certainly better off. Right now I have my friends behind me and supporting me looking out for me. So I'm pulling through, I DO have things I need to change about the way I do certain things in respect to trust and control in a relationship. Am I'm going to do it for whomever I may be with in the future, as well as for myself to better myself.

Thanks again....feel free to add any other comments.