I live in NJ, and she lives here, when shes not in school [Notre Dame]......

.........but she wants to break up with my cuz I smoke weed. She knew about it before was were together, and you can't expect someone to change, you accept them for who they are!!


We've been together for 1½ years, and we still haven't had sex, she gives me a million reasons why, but it's just a bunch of bs, shes doesn't care about sex, and thats annoying.

Anyways, my friend [Marc] and I were gonna fly out to Notre Dame for the weekend [this weekned] to hang out, catch the game, have a good time, but she won't let us smoke in the house, or in the apt complex, and if we smoke in the complex she won't let us in her apt.

anywho, she got in the big argument with me and tells me, I either quit or were over, so I mean, I'm not quitting, it doesn't effect it, and if she doesn't love me for me, then she doesn't love me. am I right or am I right? that's what I though.

What do you guys think? and even if we break up tonight, she still wants me to come up this weekend. I told he no, I'll cancel the plane tickets.

 

is sex that big a thing for you? maybe she just wants to wait meng. Nothing wrong with that. And about the weed. If you care about her and want things to go somewhere with her maybe you should kick it diew

 

does she give u head at least, sorry

 

-she knew prior to dating you that you smoked...she knew what she was getting in to. or she thought she could change you

-is smoking that important to you?

-are you willing to quit because she tells you to?

-she cant accept you for the things you do...thats not good.

:dunno: man.

 

youre right.


i have a friend who smokes weed. him and i made an agreement. i love him to death, and i know its his thing and he isnt going to quit...but he is to respect my feelings on it and NOT smoke around me..or call or talk to me whatsoever if he's under teh infulence of it. we agreed to that, and for the most part, he's respected that.

if she knew before you got together and she didnt like it, she shouldve never have gotten w/ u. people arent going to change, and you shouldnt have to change them. if she doesnt love u for u, weed and all, then she doesnt love u. ur right.

as for the sex thing, is she a virgin? if so, then you shouldnt be pissy about that. shes just not ready obviously. if she isnt a virgin, then i'd probably be a little irritable about that too..

 

shes not a virgin. or so he told me before. to some people sex is another step in a relationship :dunno:

 

You know my opinion on the situation already broham.

 

exactly.

 

1. eh
2. no
3. nope

I do love her, but if she can't accept me for me, then she just doesn't love me.

Shes NOT a virgin!!!!

oh, BTW, none of her friends have sex either, so that doesn't help, apparently it's normal for a 19/20y/o college girl not to have sex....not helping my situtation.....

I dunno, I'm calling her back @ 11pm E.S.T. to see if she changed her mind about us breaking up, she told me to think, I told her, I am who I am, accept me or don't. I'll call you at 11.....

 

no head, no sexual conact.....well we hook up, but you know, no head, no hand jobs... N O T H I N G...