first of all, the 11th would've been my daughter's 13th birthday https://www.honda-acura.net/forums/s...hreadid=100587

then on friday night, i found out the reason my best friend didn't call me last weekend to go out for her birthday was a few days before her husband was killed in a car wreck. :nervous:

he was coming home from his second job (working for xmas money) & fell asleep. he hit the back of an 18-wheeler. he was in the hospital for a few days w/ broke jaw, collapsed lung, multiple broken ribs & both arms broken. they didn't know that he had a head trauma that had caused a blood vessel to swell deep in his brain & 3 days later it burst & he stroked out. she told me that @ least she had a day or two with him in the hospital before he died.

they had been married for 3 or 4 years & had one of those real good marriages....not like some people that complain about being married. they were really good together.

she is probaly the closest person to me & i have no idea what to do or say to her. i just know that i have to make myself available to her @ a moments notice. i really love her like the sister i never had.

i only met her husband twice, but he seemed like one of the coolest people ever. when i first heard the news, i cried for like an hour & i didn't even cry when my dad died cause he was in alot of pain & i came to the conclusion that he was better off, but this is one fukked situation.

i took her out to get a bite to eat & talk this evening. we laughed..which she said was what she loved about me that i can make her laugh. we got to talking & the thought of what she is having to deal with made me cry. she seems strong & is carrying on fairly good considering, but i know it's gonna be hard to deal with for a long time. i just know i need to support her anyway i can.

she & i use to part company by saying " i love you.....damnit!!!" kinda half joking/half serious. now we hug & say it like we mean it, cause i think now we both realize how important our friendship is to each other.

this has really made me think about what is really important in life. my car, my bike, my job, money...all that shit is meaningless!!! if you are lucky enough to have someone in you life that you care about (whether it is a bf/gf or just a close friend), don't let a day go by w/out telling them, cause you never know when it'll be your last chance.

sorry to be such a buzzkill, but i really needed to vent

 

 

vents are good. its good to hear there are good peoples like you around. stay up.

 

EGad a book! :eek3:

Sorry.

 

you made me cry. seriously.



today i was sitting in traffic on teh highway, bitching b/c i was going to be late getting back to school....i come home to find out that accident which was the reason for the traffic jam, killed my ex boyfriend's sisters friend. i was sitting there bitching, and he was dead. i feel like an ass.

people really need to stop taking their lives and the people in their lives for granted. after 3 deaths in my own family, the losses that my friends and others around me have dealt w/ and the things i see on tv, its proved to me that life truely is entirely too damn short to live it in with drama and heartache. tell the ones around u that u love them. tell them what they mean to you. i held all kinds of things in that i wanted to tell my dad...i kept putting it off till the next day. well that next day never came. and now i have all this in me. if i could have absolutely ANYTHING in this entire universe...it would be to simply have my dad here for 10 minutes. that is all.

shit happens. you can go about ur normal daily life and come home to life changing news. you would wake up tomorrow to the news that YOUR father is dead. you could be sitting in traffic because of an accident that killed someone YOu knew!

just say i love you. and smile. we wont be here forever.

 

id give up anything to have a few moments with my granny..i miss her more and more the older i get
life seriosly is too short to sweat the small things and take any life for granted

 

Just be glad for the little things, like having a home, a car, friends, your life, etc. I'm glad to be alive, glad that I don't have cancer for right now... sure it cost for over $1500 to find out but thats a small price to pay.

Enjoy your life for what its worth... too short to spent contemplating things bygone and the could have beens.

 

:werd:

a few years ago before he died, my dad had been in & out of the hospital, but i hardly got to visit him there cause he was always released the next day before i could get there. the night he died, i had gone to see him in the icu. he was in & out of conciousness, but i told him i loved him & felt him squeeze my hand before i left. he died 2 hours later.

i still am thankful that i went to see him that night & i know my friend sera feels the same about the time she got to spend in the hospital with her husband & as time goes on will come to really cherish that moment.

okay, i gota stop or i'm gonna cry again. :sad:

 

Just saying that you need to tell the pople that you love, that you love them, reminds me of my group of friends. Most of us met because of cars. My best friend (his screen name is Spood) I met back in highschool, and he and I were like brothers for a long time. He's busy with school and work right now, I'm working full time, and I do miss him. But he, and the rest of our group of "car guys" are so close that I would do anything for them. On our local message board I actually started a thread about it. They are some of the most loyal, caring, intelligent, kickass people I know. And we all feel as close as family.
Both of my parents are out of work right now. lol, I'm supporting them. But what is really strange is that I'm closer to my parents now than I've EVER been. There is always a silver lining to things. Maybe you helping your friend will lead to a life long love (romantic or otherwise) that couldn't have been any other way. There as so many what ifs. Just be there and support your friend. DO NOT have comforting sex with her!!!! BAD BAD BAD! lol
But you know what I'm getting at. Do what you have to because it comes naturally, not because you know it's right. There are a lot of things I've done because I knew it was the right thing to do, and I always wish I would have done them the way I wanted to in teh first place. Things always get better, they always get worse. It's all about making the most of the good times, and letting the bad times just be. Remember, don't dwell.

 

my dad died at 4am on Good Friday, 2002. i went to see him thursday night, around 7pm. i wasnt going to go, but i had to take some stuff over for my brother to help w/ the funeral.

every time i had gone there before that night, i walked out bawling. but that night was different. i went in and he was sleeping. so i gave my brother what i had and asked how dad was...i turned around and looked at him, and he was starring at me...he said "What the hell are you doing here, Tink?" i laughed and said, "I didnt come to see u! I needed to talk to Jesse" he smiled and did one of those hand gestures like "get outta here". (he kept his sense of humor the whole way through...that was my dad.) i laughed at him. gave him a kiss and a hug and told him i loved him. i walked out with a smile on my face. i felt calm. that was the last time i saw my dad alive. he died 9 hours later. i sort of feel like he was waiting for me to feel a little more acceptance and calm about the whoe thing...b/c i was a total basketcase before hand. i think he sensed that i was calmer and i was dealing w/ reality a little better that night.