Just saying that you need to tell the pople that you love, that you love them, reminds me of my group of friends. Most of us met because of cars. My best friend (his screen name is Spood) I met back in highschool, and he and I were like brothers for a long time. He's busy with school and work right now, I'm working full time, and I do miss him. But he, and the rest of our group of "car guys" are so close that I would do anything for them. On our local message board I actually started a thread about it. They are some of the most loyal, caring, intelligent, kickass people I know. And we all feel as close as family.
Both of my parents are out of work right now. lol, I'm supporting them. But what is really strange is that I'm closer to my parents now than I've EVER been. There is always a silver lining to things. Maybe you helping your friend will lead to a life long love (romantic or otherwise) that couldn't have been any other way. There as so many what ifs. Just be there and support your friend. DO NOT have comforting sex with her!!!! BAD BAD BAD! lol
But you know what I'm getting at. Do what you have to because it comes naturally, not because you know it's right. There are a lot of things I've done because I knew it was the right thing to do, and I always wish I would have done them the way I wanted to in teh first place. Things always get better, they always get worse. It's all about making the most of the good times, and letting the bad times just be. Remember, don't dwell.