Ok, I looked on the passenger side.... didn't see it. Found something that looks very similar on the drivers side. The connector on the right was grey, not blue and the wire colors going into the connector with 2 wires was brown and green.

I shorted it, tured the key 2 click and the CEL light blinked once. That was it. I let it sit there for a min, nothing. Just the one blink nearly after all the other lights went out... and then it was just steady on. Did I short the wrong one or is that a valid responce from it?