nevermind figured it out. my wiring connections are correct. the oem heater circuit spec is 15 ohms-------the bosch universal heaater circuit is only 5 ohms thats why hondas does not like bosch because its not within oem spec. and cannot turn off the check eninge light---
i tried a 20 ohm resistor and guess what, it burned it.

i tried a 10 ohm 10watt resistor (ceramic enclosed type) and it worked---- cel gone, but i dont need it for now so i took it off, (just need it for smog) lol

so, anyway problem solve. nice trick huh! resistor only 2 bucks at radio shack---- o2 sensor----maybe 200 bucks,--- bosch dont work so dont buy it--- cost 100 bucks.