It's not hate at all, I have no jealousy to people who feel the need to blow that kind of money on a wedding at all. In fact I feel pity to a certain degree.

I don't know maybe I am just too much of a realist when it comes to these matters but I don't want to start my married life in the hole financially especially in these uncertain times. That money could go to many more beneficial things for my wife and I other than impressing our friends with a huge wedding.

I spent 15k on my wedding out of my own pocket and to be honest even though I had the money and wanted my wife to be happy I saw it as a waste of money better spent on other things.