Originally Posted by
Tark
That what i will start with... i mena i've been with her for 3 years and i am usually a very patient person. I can't just give up like this after we both invested so much. i think the lack of patience is from the sexual frustration. And we didnt really get to talk about this yet.
i dont like the word choices here
"give up" and "invested" make it sound like you are owed something out of the relationship
this isnt true
you were happy for 3 years, it wasnt a waste of time, it was a great 3 years
maybe you could have another great 3 years with her, maybe you cant
but the important part is that it is a good year for you, regardless of if she is involved in it or not
the relationship is NOT more important than you
in all honesty i think she is out the door already, its very similar to a situation with my exgf, i didnt read the signs and struggled through another year of hell with her and neither of us were happy at all but we felt committed to the relationship and tried to make it work, it didnt
but the only way i could learn this was to go through it, some things in life just are that way
regardless of the outcome, focus on what you can do now, and thats talk to her
i know you cant listen to everyone on here, and that she isnt a bitchy girl like our exgf's, that she is different and loves you and blah blah blah
but in all honesty, she has given up, women dont make decisions, they take actions that force others to make decisions for them
wether she still wants to be with you or not, she has given up and is waiting for you to end it, it may be able to be saved, but i doubt it, and you should be ready to face that and accept it as the correct choice for both of you to move forward and be happy