so sorry about your breakup..if u can put off contact for about 6 wks. cold turkey then if u feel like it accept her calls..that will give u both a cooling off period so u can recenter yourself. it also helps to prevent saying things to each other that u dont mean that can be hurtful and stay away from places u use to go to together if u can..see other people not necessarily only women to date, take care of yourself. rediscover your hobbies or find new ones. do what u have put off since being a couple took up time. its keeping busy, exercise... talk to your friends as sounding boards. if u can, find 1, sort of a break up buddy, to talk to when u r feeling the urge to call your ex. that is helpful especially in the 1st 6 wks. its filling that void that is there, post breakup and doing things without the ex that is hard at 1st. it will get better.