it really depends on what you want to use for the paint surface...
i choose to hand wash with microfiber mitts, and dry with a microfiber towels.
as for wax i havent really gotten around to it, but there any a full review section on autopia that covers it. i use spray wax every other time i wash to help keep up so far..
really everything for your finish needs is on
www.autopia.org
now the oil leak with require a new gasket (if thats infact what you need)
if its a head gaset leak buy a head gasket... its really realitivly simple to figure out what you need it's doing it thats the hard part.