alright.. so the alarm is working, all that was needed was to reprogram the remote, and the alarm worked.. which is a good thing.. but i tried the remote start.. it froze back up so there is something wrong with the remote start...

so now im wondering, if its just the remote start brain? or maybe a loose wire here? ground wire maybe? fuse? what would cause this?
At least now, i have pinpointed it to the remote start being the problem..

once again, thanks for all your help.. maybe this will help more.