Vtec-Controller by itself isn't worth the $$$...get the Apexi-VAFC (controls vtec engagement and fuel-curve). You won't be able to use any of these devices effectively until you spend some time and $$$ on some dyno tuning, and obviously you won't be able to tell if you've made any concrete power gains unless you mess with the settings on a dyno.
Type-R cams are supposed to be the best for pure street driving; although I know Skunk Stage 2's, JUN, and some of the less aggressive crower cams are also very streetable. I personally was considering a CTR intake cam + ITR exhaust cam but judging from some of the dynoplots I've seen I don't think it's aggressive enough (unless I plan to do forced induction later on). Regardless, I'm keeping my engine stock for now until I get more experience in auto-x/track.
Shingo