well, finally bought the starter contacts for $35....had to go get 'em from a toyota dealership...of all places i had to compare with all they had in stock to find the right one, though. the honda dealerships in my area don't sell the contacts by themselves. anyway, it starts with no problems now. that abs problem hasn't shown up in a while now either. so i dunno if it's even related to the starter or not. im just glad i didnt have to spend more $$ to buy the whole starter