Originally Posted by DelSolGirl
The problem is that you all assume that people who have premarital sex are jumping into bed with anyone and anything, or don't get to know their partners first. My husband and I had a very strong friendship, and a strong mental, intellectual and emotional connection before we ever consumated the relationship. When that finally happened, the relationship became stronger than ever, because we shared absolutely everything of ourselves with the other.
And I hope when you do decide to marry, it will be for a better reason than "a point where I can at least say I'm comfortable enough with someone to live with them for the rest of our lives." It takes much more than that to make a marriage work, and you should want more than that from your relationship and from your wife.
I'm not saying that you didn't know your husband prior to getting married or that anyone having premarital sex is going to have a bad relationship. I'm saying that I personally do not feel that I would know a person very well if I
did so.
That is what marriage is about though...committing yourself to a single person for the rest of your life. And getting married is that point of no return, so to speak. Yes there's more to it than just the single sentence I wrote out, in fact that's what I was trying to say is that I believe that by not having premarital sex there will be an strong emotional and intellectual bond that will form the basis of a relationship.
Why are you so defensive about this? I stated that I have nothing against people who have premarital sex, just that my own personal choice is not to have it. We leave you to your life, so leave us to ours.