let me say first off that it is refreshing to see people with fewer partners and not boasting. to those that say they are waiting for the right one, i did that and am very happy because of it. I've only been with one woman and that's who i am still with. i had several opportunities to lose my virginity before that but i never felt comfortable about it. i might add though that what i've learned is that you learn more about yourself when in a completely intimate relationship with someone than you could ever learn by yourself. My point is that i feel if for some reason me and my gf broke up i would be in an even better position now to find someone that suited me better. My problem with men that make it their cause to have as many partners as possible is that its not hard to do. I can garauntee unless he is don juan, if he has a large list it probably speaks to his moral integrity. Much of that list is probably due to alcohol or pushiness, or not caring what the person looks like (i must admit that after loosing your virginity, the physical pleasure of sex clouds your vision such that you would settle for a woman you wouldn't have before if you knew you were just going to have a one night stand). I personally cannot fathom being intimate in any way with a woman i can't talk to, or whose values i don't agree with (well maybe i could do her IDB). It is hard being a guy sometimes because you're constantly told that you should be a stud or "pimp" and if it doesn't appeal to you it can erode your self esteem. A little long winded, but just my 2 cents. I should also add that since i have lost my virginity i am more comfortable with the idea of casual sex and could envision myself with multiple partners, and that any apprehensions are based non-whatsoever on religious beliefs but rather ethical.