Originally Posted by DelSolGirl

I think it's sweet that you have such an optimistic, yet naive outlook on the way life works. Love is wonderful and magical but it doesn't fix everything.

I hope you won't end up sorely disappointed in your future romantic relationship when you see that everything isn't as ideal as you'd like to think it is. Divorce often happens because people are inherently selfish and don't think it's worth fighting for a relationship where they're not the "star" all the time. I don't know how many divorces happen because the people never loved each other -- that's impossible to say -- but I bet it's less than you think.

By the way, I think it's awesome that you are saving yourself for marriage, and for the "right" woman. I just want you (and others who share your opinion) to see that it's not always a bad thing when unmarried people engage in a sexual relationship. It may not be YOUR choice, and that's fine. But don't bash people who do make that choice. I don't feel bad at all about the fact that my husband and I had premarital sex. In your opinion, are we still lacking values for having had premarital sex even though we ended up getting married in the end? I'm not trying to insult your views, I'm just honestly curious about them.

Oh, about your statistics that you added -- the average age for marriage in this country is actually 25.7 for women and 28.3 for men. I had just turned 24 and my husband was almost 23 when we married, but we'd been together over 4 years by that point. Don't assume that everyone who gets married under the age of 25 rushes into things.